I already did what I thought was the right decision, but I dont know if I made the right choice......
2007-02-20 04:58:20 · 13 answers · asked by Vialicious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you have answered your own question. You felt ''stuck" in a long-term relationship that wasn't going anywhere, you found someone local that you had a lot in common with and you decided to dump the long-distance lover for someone living in the same zip code. Of course, only time will tell if you will be happy with your new partner but it sounds like the right choice to me!
2007-02-20 05:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kate Winter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships suck.
They really are not fair since the two people start having new thoughts, dreams, experiences, etc. Sure- sometimes the promise of each otehr helps get one through a bad time, or helps you stay true to each other... but often it just causes guilt, confusion, etc.
'Dear John' the other person ASAP. You don't need to dump him or hurt him. Just tell him that you need to back off a bit and we will see how everything is when you get back.
If you are engaged, you need to be really careful- breaking the engagement may be the right thing to do, but once broken it will be hard to reforge later if needed.
If you are just promised to each other somehow, grow up. Being 'exclusive' is nice, but it really does not count until you are engaged.
2007-02-20 13:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by Madkins007 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all before you decide to keep the new relationship going you need to let the other one go. Out of respect for not only the long distance relationship but to you. You should let that person know that its not working and you wish him the best. The you can establish the new relationship with out lies or deception.
2007-02-20 13:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by k-girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As uncomfortable and painful as it will be to do so, it is better to be honest with yourself and the person you are involved with, then make the mistake of staying in a relationship just because you feel obligated to and discuss it with them as it is showing them the dignity and respect that they deserve and that you care about, even if you two can't work it out.
To put it off or just plow through because of a sense of obligation will only make you angry, resentlful and depressed in the long run as you will always wonder what could have been, instead of focusing on what you have.
Be fair to yourself and be fair to him to allow him the chance to pursue a relationship with someone who truly wants to be with not, not just does because they feel they have to for whatever reason.
2007-02-20 13:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just sexually attracted to the other person coz they are physically closer to you, but your heart is with your long distance love. You will sees as times passes you will fall for many more but keep your stronghold with your long distance love. I am in long distance and we have not seen each other for a year and I have dated 4 other in that year but am still with her, ye I cheated but dont you dare
2007-02-20 13:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can know what to do in your situation. If you say that you got "stuck" in a LDR... well, that says a lot about what you think about that relationship.
If you think you made the right decision.. then you made the right decision... for you.
2007-02-20 13:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting use of the word "stuck".
Only time will tell, since you did not describe the choice you made.
2007-02-20 13:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should follow your heart,pick your dream girl and ease off with the other girl. Tell her your really sorry but you have to end it with her because you dont want her to get upset if she finds out about the other girl.
2007-02-20 13:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by needing_help_always 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are neverstuck in a relationshp, unless of course yo uare waiting on the life insurance.
Be upfront and honest with the guy, better to be honest than to tell a lie.
2007-02-20 13:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by ~Browneyes~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to cut off your long distance relationship. it's not worth it and if he finds out about the other he'll be hurt
2007-02-20 13:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋