What is a good method for a single mother raising her daugther alone?

Question

I love my daughter dearly. I work full-time while she is at school, and off on the weekends. I spend time with her, and take her to church but I think something is missing. I don't know what to do she is very disobediant. I love her and believe in God very much. I don't want any rude and obnoxius answers either. If you don't know the answer please don't respond.

Answer 1

Be both a mom and a dad

Answer 2

Im a single mom too and before I try to help any, I want to tell you that you are doing an excellent job! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise and don't feel guilt about how things can be, we have to deal with the situations that are upon us. All daughters seem disobediant, I know I was, but being brought up with church values, I knew what was right and what was wrong. I'm sure she does too. If you are looking for ways to become closer to her, and maybe earn some of her respect back, you could always plan a spa trip for the two of you to get your nails done or something on a Saturday morning when she isn't with friends. I know gossiping isn't Christian, but you can do it in a way where you can sound interested but get an idea of where she stands in life with friends, school etc. If you're like me and can't afford a manicure out somewhere, do it at home. Remind her of what it is like to be female and goof around with nail polish and hair. I find this very hard to do during the week when other pressing things are in the way and you're just tired. If you do this and open up the communication, you will have a rewarding relationship with your daughter. I hope things work out with you and your family and keep up the good work and God Bless!

Answer 3

my mom is raising my sister alone. she is in the same position as you are. it's really sad to say, but she buys my sisters love and affection most of the time. my sister is 10 btw. If i were you, i would take her on more outings, like to the park or beach (if you have any around). maybe go shopping, but set a limit to yourself and dont spend too much (like my mom....my sister got an I Pod, Laptop, clothes, purses, jewelry and other odds and ends for christmas)

i have 2 sons and even though i dont work at the moment, i can understand where you're coming from. dicipline is everything to a kid growing up. maybe you could sit down with your pastor and have a counceling session once or twice a week. dont call it that though. i was made (by my step-father) to go to a therepist. b/c i was having problems in school. i still resent my mother a little bit b/c she went along with him and made me see the therepist. just tell your daughter that the pastor wants to have a meeting with the two of you, being that you are a single mother and he wants to make sure that everything is going okay for the two of you at home. then you could bring up the dicipline issues.

maybe you could plan something, with your daughter, in advance to do on the days that you are off. make it into an activity (if she is young) and put a big note on the refigerator to remind both of you what you'll be doing the next weekend.

sorry if these suggestions suck. i tried.

good luck!!

Answer 4

I am a single mother and I can tell u the best thing to do is love her unconditionally. Tell her everyday how much u love her and when she does wrong, explain to her what she has done wrong and punish her, take away the tv for an afternoon, or something to the effect that u do not have to lay a hand on her. Just make sure she knows exactly what she has done and why she is being punished, explain that you are punishing her because you love her. If she will not listen to you than explain that she will continue to be in trouble until she can learn to listen to you. Eventually she will get the idea and start minding!

Answer 5

KEISHA, YOUR DAUGHTER IS MISSING HER FATHER. BUT THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT. DO THE BEST THAT YOU CAN AS A SINGLE MOTHER TO RAISE YOUR DAUGHTER. TAKING HER TO CHURCH IS A GREAT THING. WHY IS SHE SO DISOBEDIENT? DO YOU DISCIPLINE HER?? TRY TALKING TO HER ABOUT WHY SHE IS ACTING THAT WAY. SHE COULD JUST BE AT THAT AGE. JUST STAY STRONG AND KEEP DOING WHAT YOU ARE DOING. IM A SINGLE MOM, I HAVE A SON. IT'S NOT AN EASY JOB BUT KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND YOU WILL BE OK.

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Answer 6

Parenting begins from day one. You started too late, probably, disciplining her and now you have a terror on your hands. You need to take control of the situation and let her know who's boss. Be consistent in your methods.

You should also change her diet. Get proteins and fresh veggies & fruit in her body more. That will help her calm down and be more and be more receptive to what you have to say.

Answer 7

Yes, something is missing...Where's daddy? or a daddy figure?
Kids misbehave simply to test their boundaries.
You can try to hook up with other moms. Even if you go to their house to visit, your daughter can go play while you have some grown up time.
I don't see where the God thing fits in to this.

Answer 8

sounds like you are doing a good job so far. try to spend time with her and get to know her personally. her likes, fav colors, etc. tell her stories about your life before she was born. it allows for her to feel comfy when the time comes for her to tell you important things in the future. good luck!