Okay, for those who Don't know what's going on...Theres this guy I extreemly like and he's been Muslim for 4 years now because he was in jail 4 years ago for bad stuff and I guess while he was in there Or when he got out, he started to practice the religion, anyway I noticed him around town and worked up the guts to ask for his # and when he gave it to me, He Did say that I love girls and don't get me wrong, but I can't date and knowing me I went ahead and kept his # and gave him mines So later on the next day I called him and He didn't answer but called back the next day and ever since them we've been talking sensual over the phone and he came to my apartment 3 times and we fooled around and stuff but all of a sudden decided I wasn't good for his Spirit and decided to Stop talking to me all together and Ever since yesturday I haven't spoken to him since Wednesday of last week but Yesturday he started to talk to me again to Strike up a conversation, but I thought he was done with me?
2007-02-20 04:50:01 · 11 answers · asked by kittysweetie19 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So if he was Done with me and Said he wasn't coming back over to my apartment last Wednesday as far as sexual stuff Why would he start talking to me forst Cause I wasn't going to say Anything to Him at all yesturday, but he Kept saying "Hey" until he got my attention and when He did, I said "Im mad at you and I Don't want to talk to you Anymore" and he said "Ok" in a Smart *** way, but at the Same time it sounded like he knew I Was going to ask him what He wanted, So now Im just confused about his "Up and Down" ways when it comes to me, Even when I called him on the phone last night and He was being sort of a Smart *** and I asked him that I Didn't want to keep playing myself Calling him and he Won't take me Seriously after what has happen between us, So it's like when I Tried to call him last week he Didn't answer, But yesturday he did, What's up with him is He Bipolar is just an *** that doesn't appreciate what hes Got in fron't of his face ti'll it's Gone? Im not a girl he's used to
2007-02-20 05:11:50 · update #1
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Religion is a tough issue.
He must practice abstinence until marriage. He must forgo relationship or encounters that lead to an unclean mind. If you want to be with him, you must consider marriage - religion is a tough issue.
If not, then Muslims are not the kind of guys for you.
People will give various opinions, mostly, they don't understand Islam. It's VERY STRICT. Discipline. Honor. Respect. etc...
FYI...nothing wrong with you. He's just respecting his religion.
2007-02-20 04:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by HottNikkels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy converted to Muslim after he had been in jail for 4 years...you have to give him some space and a break.
1. He had been without sex for 4years, so he is hot as hell and needs NO extra torture.
2. Muslims do not like fooling around before marraige, if you do that then they will have a conflict about how they feel about you or about themselves while they are trying to cleanse themselves.
3. Because they have to marry you if they have sex with you and he just got out of jail, marriage is not on his priority list...so he is trying to protect himself and you but in the meantime he likes you and he is human.
my advice to you, if you like him and he said you are not good for his soul, you should stay back and allow him the time he needs to sort out his life, there are plenty of men out there without this kind of burden.
2007-02-20 05:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule #1 - NEVER date a guy that's been in jail. U don't know what he did when he was in there. Leave this guy alone- it's obvious that he doesn't want to be with u. I wish so many women would realize that the MAN MUST PURSUE YOU. If he doesn't, he doesn't want u. It's just human nature. Guys want to chase women. He already told u that u were "bad for his spirit" so it puzzles me as to why u would even want to talk to him again. If u keep hanging around, he just will keep u around for sex until something better comes along. (sorry)
2007-02-20 05:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by A Smart Chick 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off you need to leave this man alone!! He was in jail for bad things. You don't need that. He found religion you said ok but for how long. There are so many men out there with less drama. Give them a chance!
2007-02-20 04:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Disregard the religion, pay no attention to his past....what matters most is now.....guys don't just stop seeing people because it was bad for his spirit........he wants you for one thing with no strings attached because he knows you will be there....tell him you have decided that you can do better than him and then let him go....life is to short to be on a yoyo string.
2007-02-20 04:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by snickersmomma5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon, you are so young got a whle lot of good life ahead if you choose it,,you did not say or i missed it,,your religion?? most muslims you wont hardley be able to change their beliefs....they dont believe in Jesus,,,the woman is like a slave....only used for there purposes...if your not a christian ,,i suggest you give jesus a chance,,he will change your life forever..and there are many men out there,,i say let this dude go,,and move on,,there is someone special ,just waiting for you to treat you like the woman you deserved to be treated.....and you do desrve that...let him go...there is someone waiting for you much better,,
God bless and be with you..(and if you dont know Jesus i suggest you try him,,,what you got to loose??
jodyblonde2000
2007-02-20 05:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by joann 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dunno maybe he rushed it at first and had time to think....what exactly did you do that hurts his spirit? nothing...you just met.
he doesnt have to talk sensual, he's a grown up and can make the relationship slow and calm right? so maybe he likes you and wants to pursue it. Just ask him and try to be respectful if you want to try to continue and get to know each other first on an intellectual and spiritual level. peace
2007-02-20 04:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it but it sounds like you are the girl on the side he wants to come to when things with his main girl are not working out so well.
2007-02-20 04:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by PhyzicsOfHockey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
gurl be careful thats all i can say... if he wus in jail who knows he could just be tryin 2 get some... you can find your self some one wayy better... if he was bein an *** in the 1st place jst screw his *** and move on theres plenty fish in the sea =]]
2007-02-20 04:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by kuh-rina 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this sounds like too much drama for you. one day it's bad for him to talk you and the next it's not, just move on
2007-02-20 04:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋