to you, but you really have nothing to talk about? I'm 27, single with no children and I live a basic life that is routine. People from my job & my apartment complex always want me to talk to them, but I really have nothing to talk about. Have you ever been in that situation.
2007-02-20 04:45:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel like that all the time! I find it helps to keep up on current events and pop culture at least a little bit.
You might want to try spicing up your life a little, too. Learn to cook, or just study something you find interesting.
Good luck to you!
2007-02-20 04:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by Charles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having people wanting to talk to you is an AWESOME thing; it means they're interested in you as an individual and will like to interact and get to know you better.
You can start developing your social skills by being more confident and aware of yourself and your surroundings. Read,watch news and the media to give you an "update" on the world which are vital topics for starting/maintaining conversations. We are all bonded by our surroudings and the media makes things easier!
Be observant and sensitive when talking/interacting with people, what do they LIKE to talk about?
Take the leap of faith and practice, start talking to people individually before mingling in groups and formal social situations.
Join clubs, volunteer, take up a new sport, be in places where you're most comfortable and let your natural self shine through.
Lastly, remember that people always want to be heard, so simply just listen! Listening is a great skill thats vital in communication and in bonding people. Have fun and enjoy! ;)
2007-02-20 13:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by astella_interrupted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could be wrong, but it sounds like it annoys you that people want to talk to you. Do you really enjoy just keeping to yourself? Maybe the people in your apartment complex are just trying to be nice, and your co-workers probably just want to conversate like anyone else does at work to make it more bearable. I had a co-worker that sounds like you and she would complain because a complete stranger in line made light conversation as they waited at the grocery store. Gee whats the harm??? Someone's being nice, accept it,,,embrace it. Think about it,,,,what if they all just did the opposite and ignored you? Would that be better? Is life that boring that you don't have ANYTHING to talk about. That's impossible. Lighten up.
2007-02-20 12:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people like that usually are very quite people and when put in a situation where it comes to talking they usally dont know what to say because they lack social skills. Talking doesnt nessesarily have to be about facts it could be as simple as saying hello, hey, goodmorning etc... you need to be more out there with yourself. You need to learn how to just randomly talk to people.. because you lacked that for so many years... THe more you put yourself out there the more friends you will have and you will find yourself having more fun and being more social. Who knows you might even meet someone or even marry them lol....
2007-02-20 12:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I have been in that situation before and sometimes you just don't want to talk to whomever is trying to talk to you. But it could also be that people around you think that you could be doing more than your basic life routine.
2007-02-20 12:49:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with being sociable, nothing wrong with keeping to yourself.
there are benefits and downfalls if you wish to mingle or not.
personally i mingle a bit w/ my co-workers because we work together as a team, getting to know a person will help to get to know a person's strength and weakness in the job.
In an apt complex, I hardly say anything more than a HI to my neighbors. I have no need to build a rapport w/ my neighbors, they come and they go...I have friends if I need any sort of assistance.
2007-02-20 12:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change Your Routine. sounds like you are very boring and I can see why you don't want to talk to anyone. You need to change something in your life, something big, and allow yourself to open up to new experieneces. take up an activity, something fun, something that gets you moving.
2007-02-20 12:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by Zig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you're in the early stages of depression. try somehting new. get out of your routine. make something happen worth talking about.
2007-02-20 12:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by Andi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES i have. but i always come up with something to talk about maby its because im a complet girly girl but whatever. just ask them about themselvs and get to know them. but dont get stalkerish.
2007-02-20 12:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by Jessy D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i can understand....i have this problem with people i do not even know, but be fake to these people to satisfy them, always smile at them and agree with everything they say....that way you will not have any haters...
2007-02-20 12:50:15 · answer #10 · answered by voniates1st 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋