when my bf and i make love we experience a lot of problems.. during foreplay he gets hard, but as soon as he puts a condom on he looses the hardness.. he uses a magnum condom, which is the largest... so he gets frustrated and says i'm not relaxed, so it turns him off. its clear he's not relaxed... i know we're attracted to eachother, so what can we do to solve this? should i buy the female condom, what???
2007-02-20 04:42:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ummm yeah if you think its worth it
2007-02-20 04:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by Im addicted to the memory of him 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are a few questions to be asked, but I’ll go with what you’re saying.
Personally speaking, I’ve experienced the same situation several times and I don’t why?
When you’re fore playing around the excitement and emotional connection is there, but once in a while when I back away to slide on a condom it feels like all the energy immediately draines and I can’t tell you why? It just happens…
If your guy is experiencing this rather frustrating situation all the time, maybe during foreplay you can slide the condom on him. Another idea and it works for me. Break open the condom or condoms before hard. This way all he has to do is slide it out of the package and on to his tool.
Another idea, during foreplay have the guy or you can even help place the condom on while he’s hard then continue your foreplay. This way when it comes time to insert his tool its all wrapped up and ready to go.
As for the female condom, you could try it...but I don't think its the solution
2007-02-20 13:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by dirtmojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it could be nerves. I had this issue whan I was younger and the solution wa to take things slowly and do a lot of the things he likes up front. When he is ready, you put the condom on him and climb on top, taking some of the work aspect out of it for him.
After he's had a little success, he'll be ready to rock. Have fun.
2007-02-20 12:48:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the condom probaly making him frustrated so keep up your end of the foreplay while he is putting it on or put it on for him. He might just forget about the condom
2007-02-20 12:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by LRCMT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It took time to wear a condom, by the time it's worn, he might be no longer feel stimulated and it's hard to get stimulated using a condom.
You guys need to review the reason on why you guys need wear a condom and if it is worth it.
2007-02-21 08:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by E A C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One tip would be for you to put the condom on him. I've even heard of girls who can do it with their mouths! Thing is that if you're hands are on him, and you stay in the moment, he's less likely to lose the urge. Say good things to him about his hard on while your putting it on too...
Oh, and I've heard that sex with a femidom is like doing it with a plastic bag, so I doubt that would help ;o)
2007-02-20 12:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try buying the female condoms and see what happens. If nothing form there, maybe you could try some new things together....spice it up more, feel me?
2007-02-20 12:48:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably just doesnt like condoms it makes it not feel as good for the guy.
2007-02-20 12:51:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a doctor they have many potions you can have and they can also recommend other things to try.
2007-02-20 12:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but as the book says... "He's Just Not That Into You." Or else it is guilty feelings about something or someone else...
2007-02-20 12:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah you might want to do that. Because it sounds like your b/f only wants to have unprotected sex. And I do not advise that since we really can't trust everybody.
2007-02-20 12:45:57 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋