I am asking this question only because it has been some years since I have had a serious relationship with a man. And I have recently meet someone who I think I may want to get to know better. My problem is I have problems trusting men and to save myself from worring and wondering what they may be doing I just don't allow myself to get caught up in any emotions. I keep men at a distance from me. But, now I am getting to the point where I want to be loved, held and all that good stuff. But, I still have that fear of getting hurt again. And that fear prevents me from giving any man all of me. So how do I do it? How do I relax and begin to enjoy life with a man again.
2007-02-20 04:41:45 · 8 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask him out,
Life's too short.
Good Luck!
2007-02-20 04:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by Ben R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you got a real difficulty trusting men. It also seems that if you can't trust them then it will be very difficult to get closer to them. I think that the fact that you found a guy you want to get to know is a great opportunity to break that "spell". Get to know this guy keeping the benefit of the doubt always in mind. This is a way to become trusting of men again, find ones you can trust. always remember that they're not all the same, there are many good and trustworthy men out there who will give u the love u need and deserve. So give this guy a shot, he could be the ice breaker!Good luck!
2007-02-20 12:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by M&U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, all you can really do is try to trust him by opening up to him. You have to be willing to take a chance. Otherwise, you could possibly loose a good man. Tell him what's going on with how you feel about trust. He should understand if not he's a jerk! Hope that helps!!
2007-02-20 12:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by foreveraaliayh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok a) don't be afraid to let yourself be free around him! let him see that you're a fun person to be with. b) look for compatability between you two. look fro signs of interest: the "eye", the shy- guy- smile, the mature voice... ( sorry, high school) and the attempts to some how snag your hand before you go home. they're all good, but the hand thing only happens ever so often. good luck!
2007-02-20 12:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want something great in life then you have to take chances. Nothing comes with a guarantee. Its hard to let people in, but if you want a loving relationship. Your the only one who can do it.
Good Luck
2007-02-20 12:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by *SeXyB* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just need to take a risk and let him get close to you.
If he is as decent as you say the barrier you have raised will lower the better you get to know him.
Its just about taking the first step and starting to lower the barrier.
2007-02-20 13:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was the same way as you are now.....afriad your heart will get broken or plain afriad of comitment. well thats all changed now because i allowed myself to get to know a certain guy and now we are together and very happy. what you should do is go with your gut feeling,if it feels right do it but if something just isnt right or something isnt there dont make yourself suffer.
2007-02-20 12:50:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has to b bit by bit,u cant just let go like dat,wen they come around give them attention but dont relax completely at first all datwill fall in later
2007-02-20 12:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by tersy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋