There's a guy I've known for a while. His name is Dave and he's 18. Right when we met he began flirting with me. I was fliting too of course. We went to his house in Plattsmouth with my cousin,19, and her bf, 18. My cousin and her bf wnated to be alone, to do 'stuff', and me and dave went to his room. We almost did 'it' but the phone rang, Then he took two fast shots of whiskey and we made him throw up. During the rest of the night, I stayed with him to make sure he got better. My mom found out and I was supposed to see him again, but we saw each other the next day. My mom freaked out and I havent been able to talk to him since. Finally I begin to talk to my cousin again, and she tells me that Dave's gotten kicked out of his house. I wanted to see him, but myt ocusin said I was being obsessed with him. Was I too obsessed? or just cared about him? (Sorry it's so long)
2007-02-20 04:35:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-02-20 04:52:20 · update #1
you arent obsessed! Most people, when they are drunk, take advantage of others. i bet you $100 that he cared for you so much during the time you were taking care of him after puking, cuz that effing sucks when that happens! usually when girls help guys in that situation, they feel sort of helpless and stupid because they're puking and a girl is taking care of them, so they tend to RESPECT you more after that. So either he respects you more and really did get kicked out, took advantage of your caring idea to help him, OR your cousin is lying to you. Perchance she is jealous.
2007-02-20 04:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there is more of the story than what you have relayed above (which is hard to follow).
My guess is, although you don't state it above, is you are under the age of 18 and you went to the bedroom and nearly had sex with a guy you really didn't know (after all, you do indicate you just met him).
If she is older than you, your family is or has blamed her for leaving you alone with the Dave, the 18 year old. If so, she likely had words with Dave, the 18 year old about taking advantage of her younger cousin and it may or may not have been a contributing factor to Dave being kicked out of the house he was living at.
Most likely your cousin does not want to be a party to the situation anymore and likely is concerned or afraid you are obsessed to be emotionally attached to a guy you just met and it could be she knows more about him than you do and is afraid you will be used or hurt or, depending on your age and state that you live in, that he could be charged with statutory rape if you met up and had sex with him.
2007-02-20 05:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you known him?
And how old are you?
It sounds like you only known him for a day and went to his house.And since your mom freaked and said you can not see him again sounds like you are under18.
Do you really think having sex with someone you have just met is a good idea?You don't really know him.And if he card at all about you.You would be hearing from him by now.
I think the guy has issues that you have nothing to do with.
I would advise that you concentrate on your own life.
Say a prayer for him and move on.And rethink what you want in your life.Because having sex at a young age and so fast after you meet someone is dangerous.Sex is NOT a handshake.
2007-02-20 04:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by southernbell_1313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think dave is bad news anyways even if your cousin was being brutal with her intentions of telling you he doesnt care bout you hun, good thing you didn't 'Do It" because first of all you still wouldn't have heard from him again and any person who can't say the words have sex should NOT be having it, sorry if it sounds like my 30 yr old mom-ish instincts are showing hun but seriously if someone told me this and i had listened i prolly would be a different person today don't let some guy use you as his temporary holding dock okay! and your mom was right bout not seeing some guy who takes shots of something he can't handle then gets kicked out of his house take hers and your cousins' advice forget he exists date someone closer to your age :D I am sure you will find someone worthy of your admirations and caring thoughts soon enough if you do :D
2007-02-20 04:44:44 · answer #4 · answered by KarenLynne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you first, and no I dont think your are being obssessive. I think you were just concerned. But then again your cousin may have a diff approach to guys. She maybe in that very picky, demanding type that take no s***, and you are just very concerned like me. Good luck
2007-02-20 04:40:05 · answer #5 · answered by Ally R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you left something out of the story than no you are not obsessed...just caring
2007-02-20 04:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by The One 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not obsessed at all you just care for him and want to be a friend i say find him and see where it goes
2007-02-20 04:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by HOT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, in fact you sound like a sweetheart. Good luck!
2007-02-20 04:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by Rhettski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that you are obsessed.. you coz sounds madd that you have someone you like... is she the kide of person who needs to have more the others to feel better about themselfs... anyway... you just care about him!
2007-02-20 04:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by Im addicted to the memory of him 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have had sex with him if the phone hadn't rung... what do you think? I think this goes beyond caring too much.
2007-02-20 04:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by Ben R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋