Ok-I have recently gotten out of a bad realtionship-he cheated, lied, had another kid while with me, etc. Anyway to make a long story short...the trust and confidence I have with guys is pretty much gone. I am tryin to get over my problem and know that not ALL guys are the same but even thought I want to be more confident and not so uptight its a very hard thing to just change over night. So I like this guy who I have known for a couple years but even though I feel a certain way about him its hard to act the way i want to. We talked about it and he just thinks I should try to be more open minded and relax and not be so negative and uptight about everything. I think he means well and might really like me but he's seems a little cautious b/c i'll admit I've went back to my ex-bf before when this new guy and I were kinda "talking" and I do regret it but anyway. I slept with him the other night (on Friday) and he hasnt called me yet. How should I take this?
2007-02-20 04:35:17 · 6 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and by the way he is 35 and I am 23...I am worried that I am acting too immature for him maybe-by being so uptight or shy.
2007-02-20 04:36:20 · update #1
YUCK what a loser for him not to call you the next day !
certainly that is no fault of yours.
maybe he's feeling insecure and he's a whoosie la-la and not worth worrying about.
Find a real man and not a wilting willy.
When you buy a car, shop around before purchasing and driving it off the showroom floor.
When it comes to guys, shop around and dont' just take anything that is available at the moment.
Enjoy yourself and your friends.
Life without sex once in awhile is fabulous and no drama is good too.
Maybe your already addicted to DRAMA
so get un-addicted quick !
2007-02-20 04:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by 21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to take a break. Yes some guys are dogs, and there are nice ones. Trust your instinct, and get out of a bad relationship ASAP. The fact that you said he had a kid with someone else while with you, and eh lied and cheated, and you still went back to him means that you are a typical woman.
Protect yourself first. The right guy will come along. There is no law that says you HAVE to have a man at all times.
2007-02-20 12:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am like in the same situation as you, feeling uptight and feeling a certain way about guys. I really dont know what to say because I trust no one anymore, just follow your heart, but dont let your ex use you ok. Good luck
2007-02-20 12:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by Ally R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please don't take this as an insult but it sounds as though you are still vulnerable after your last relationship.
some guys can pick up on this and use it to take advantage.
my advice would be to take some time out from dating and let things settle use the time for your self (a bit of self pampering) may be a new out fit or hair do use it to build up your own self esteem.
then when you feel ready let the world see the new you and let the guys know that you only surrender to a good guy.
2007-02-20 12:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by ukshropsguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is waiting for your call to make sure you are serious about him. i also think that you should let your guard down alittle because your actions may run him away and you may miss out on the best thing yet.
2007-02-20 12:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by Mesha 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have slept with him so soon. Any chance you had with him is more than likely over.
2007-02-20 12:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by Ben R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋