hat I am pregnant. Me and my boyfriend are totally happy and can not wait for out little one to get here. But I still have not told my parents. I know they will be disappointed becasue me and my boyfriend are not married yet. Is there anyone that has/had this same problem. How did you tell your parents..Was there reaction bad. What's a good way to tell them. Just wondering. And thanks in advance for the serious replies on this question and for the stupid..ignorate replies get a life and grow up..
2007-02-20 04:22:38 · 12 answers · asked by miss lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When I told my mum she sort of expected it and she told my dad..and he was ok..but I gave them a bit of a hard time and they were worried about me..I was 16...dont be scared.
2007-02-24 00:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can completely relate. My parents were the worst. I was so terrified to tell them, I took the cowards way out. I left them a note one day and left the house before they got home. Reaction? Well, lets just say that their parenting skills did not get any better. If anything, they went down hill fast. My son is 8 now. I have a wonderful husband and twin daughters. Just sit them down and tell them. Be prepared for anything and stay calm. Thats all you can do. Good luck.
2007-02-20 04:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by chocobear_20 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie there's no tried and true way to say it so just tell them. One of my daughters had to come to my husband and I and tell us. I'm sure it was hard for her, too. She didn't beat around the bush she just said it. We were shocked and disappointed. We got over it in what I realize now was a very short amount of time. Our little guy is 8 years old now. We love him very much. My daughter married her boyfriend and have give Josh two brothers and a sister. It will all work out, don't you worry about that. It may take them awhile to come around. but, once that little one is here they will love it to death. That much you can count on. Good luck and happy pregnancy!
2007-02-20 04:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by mjm52 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Call it a test. You're going to be a parent. If you can't sit down with your parents and be honest with them, consider adoption. I'm not trying to be cruel, and I'm not ignorant. I know that parenting is extremely demanding, and that a parent has to be a mature adult who can make the hard choices, stand by them and see them through.
Tell them in private, because they have the right to not be caught in some "gotcha" moment. Arrange to have dinner with them in their house, and simply tell them. Be prepared for some shock, especially if you aren't of legal age. Be prepared for your parents to be very, very angry at your boyfriend if HE'S of legal age. Try to have your plan for raising the child ready to share with your parents so they can see what thought you've given things.
That's the best you can do. You have the right to have your child, and your parents have the right to disagree with your choices. Try to do the right thing without hurting anyone and remember: you have to be the grown-up now. Make your own choices; an adult doesn't let strangers on the internet do that for her.
2007-02-20 05:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not sure how old you are, but I am assuming that you are of legal age. At this point, all you can do is just tell them. They may not be the happiest parents at first and may not agree with your choices, but guess what....they have to deal with it. You are grown and your choices are yours to make. Not everyone in the world does things the "traditional way" anymore. As long as that child has two loving parents who can take care of it...there should be no worries. Stop worrying about what your parents will think of you....do you think they worry about what you will think of their choices?
If you are not of age, you have to tell them regardless....so why wait. Waiting will not make it any better. Give them as much time as possible to deal with this before the child is born.
2007-02-20 04:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well real simple, Mom and Dad will always be Mom and Dad, may not always agree with you , may have wished for things a different way, but you are their baby girl, just tell them, let them know you are excited , set the tone .... Even if at first the shock makes them pause , they'll get on board quick enough...after all , this is Mom and Dad were talkin about here.
2007-02-20 04:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by EGOman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you wait too much longer you won't have to say a word.
My recommendation, just bite the bullet and tell your folks, they might appear disappointed (that's normal), so don't worry.
But you are their daughter and I am certain they love you very much. Give them time to get used to the idea.
I hope things go well for you.
But really, don't wait too long, there's a baby growing inside you that will be like a NEON SIGN, if you wait too long.
2007-02-20 04:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on what age you and your boyfriend are. If you are old enough to raise this child on your own, you can convince your parents you are in love and plan to do that. However, if you are minors and dependent on your parents, that is entirely different and you need to get them involved in helping you with some very important decisions regarding this child. You naturally want the best for the baby's livelihood and these needs are gigantic.
Talk with your parents in a sensible manner. They are your best friends!!
2007-02-20 05:52:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you? You sound like your parents are going to disown you by being pregnant. Yea they may be disappointed, but they love you. Just tell them.
2007-02-20 04:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by sandnickel2003 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just break it to them gently.
I was never in that situation--but my mother was (I was born out of wedlock in 1973). My grandfather more or less shrugged, my grandmother wound up buying $200 worth of baby stuff for me.
2007-02-20 05:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋