i always wanted to ask: who should pay for the dating stuff, like coffee, moive tickets, dinner, etc?
yesterday a guy asked me out for a movie and when we stood at the ticket window, he said: you pay yourself or ?
i said: sure,i pay for myself.(of course i have to say that, right?)
damn! i feel like im not valuable enough to have a movie ticket for free..do i think too much and actually it's common? or i should stop seeing that stingy guy?
more common question: at the first beginning, guys pay for everything about dating?? how about the later phase? the two should split the bill?
anyway i want to know how you guys deal with the dating fee and how it works well without hurting each other's feeling and arising uncomfortableness.
thank you!!
2007-02-20 04:20:44 · 7 answers · asked by milk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ideally, each person should pay for his or her own consumption. And if there's anyone paying for someone else's consumption, it should be the one who got the spare cash.
However, it's a courtesy that whoever started the activity to support that activity.
After all, if you hold a party, you wouldn't expect your guest to pay for their consumption, would you?
Now, the guy who asked you seems to be willing to pay for your ticket, but he might have affraid to offend your feelings, since today there are many women who claim that they feel insulted if men helped them.
He seems to be a nice person, but might have lacking in social skill and confidence.
If he is skilled enough and have a high confidence, he will just pay for the tickets without asking you any question.
However, after he paid for the tickets, he will watch the expression in your face. If you look dissatisfied, he will then ask you if you want to pay for your ticket. But if you look satisfied, he will not ask if you want to pay for your ticket.
Next time, if a guy asked if you want to pay for your own stuff and you don't want to pay, just stay silent and act confused.
As for guys paying stuff for girls.
Guys paid stuff for girls as compensation for the pleasant experiences they received from girls, but not for the pleasant experiences they will receive from girls.
If a guy want a girl to pay for her own stuff, he wouldn't even bother asking if the girl to pay for her own stuff.
2007-02-20 06:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I usually just take turns...Not like oh I paid last time lol it's just basically whoever pulls their money out first is who pays...and if I were to pay for the movie...then we go have dinner afterwards...he would pay for the dinner. That sort of thing...don't know if I've helped but I tried!
2007-02-20 04:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the begining, the guy is supposed to pay for everything. Later when things get serious, you take turns paying you know help each other out. Please do not go on another date with that guy who told you to pay for yourself!
2007-02-20 04:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes she pays and sometimes I pay, we just try to be reasonable, if the bill is big whoever was supposed to pay can simply ask the other to top up? Movies to us are cheap and we dont even have to talk about who should pay, but dinner and lunch etc we try to go half half
2007-02-20 04:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay if he asked you that he is cheap and was hoping you would have money to pay for yourself. A man who wants to impress you in the beginning doesnt have to but should offer to pay and then if you dont believe in this then you have the chance to say no no ill pay my own way, but yes once in a relationship not dating you should pay your own way unless you live together then usually your finances are done mutually. In my case my husband makes the money and i do my part by spending it :D
2007-02-20 04:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by KarenLynne 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he should have paid for it cause he is the one who asked you for a date! you should have told him that he invited you and he needs to pay for it...maybe he was guessing if your the kind of girl who's to independent and pay for their movie tickets and stuff like that...
2007-02-20 04:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by Cess B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would say the guy but that is only my opinion.
2007-02-20 04:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋