i'm out of a 4 year relationship, my ex will get drunk and call me and want me to sleep with her, she always does this when i'm busy. I've seen her once since we have been broken up i wanted to sleep with her and she didn't want to. I had security with her, we have both been tested, and we didn't have anything so i felt safe. Anyway she humiliated me by telling her family that i threw myself at her and that she rejected me. She also told me that mean people find weak people to prey on, it seems like she just took advantage of me because i was nice. I'm so lonely now......was i wrong for wanting to sleep with her? we haven't slept together since we seperated. she is doing better than i am, at least she acts like it, i'm pretty tore up still.
2007-02-20 04:18:51 · 11 answers · asked by aphotic nostrum 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why can't I find a man like you?!
My opinion, don't call her and don't answer her calls. It is too soon, you are still hurt and she does not sound very nice. Hang out with your friends or find something to keep yourself busy. You need time to heal and move on. You will be ok and that will make her see that she does not controll you or your emotions. You will see her attitude change toward you if she see's that. I know sex is hard to go with out but your life does not depend on it.
Good luck!
2007-02-20 04:24:51 · answer #1 · answered by supergoober 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alas my friend when you care about some one and it ends the pain is one that can last a while.
as for are you wrong to still feel the way you do...... no not at all as this is what loving some one is all about.
but hold tight as time really does heal a lot of wounds.
it may not happen over night but it will get better and as it does so will your life in general you will move on meet new people who will except you as a nice guy and repay it this i can tell you as i was you once and now with the passing of time my life is better than ever with a new love.
2007-02-20 04:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by ukshropsguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are doing the best you can.
You did nothing wrong and you left (thank goodness) a bad situation. Who cares what she is saying. It is a symptom of her disease. Give yourself the credit you deserve and don't worry about a moment of weakness. Wanting sex is normal. Particularly with someone you love.
Just move on...give yourself time to recover. She is bad for you...and in your heart you know it. And the way she hurts you, makes even a stranger hurt.
Stop thinking about her. Get the divorce. Be strong. Remember that the spouse of an alcoholic/abuser is a victim and it takes time and sometimes therapy to recover.
Smile and be strong. A moment of weakness is just that...
2007-02-20 04:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, of course she is gonna play the old "I'm doing so much better than he is - he's such a loser - why do you think we're not dating anymore" card. You gotta expect that of immature women and men the same. The fact that she has to blow things out of proportion show you that this wasn't the girl for you to begin with. She's mean and immature. You can do so much better than that man. Sounds like you're not in High School so you should find a girl who'd be above playing High School games. Sorry for your heartache and don't fret - there's a nice girl out there for you ... :) Good Luck hon ...
2007-02-20 04:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. Just because you are not with a person, doesn't mean the fellings just go away. I do think you need to stay away from her. Some people, you just can't be friends with, after a breakup. Or if you to become friends, you need to put time and distance between you, to allow that to happen. Also, I would not be friends or anything else, until she gets help with her drinking.
2007-02-20 04:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by D W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wanting to sleep with her again is a normal reaction.
By the sounds of things she’s playing head games with you. Give it sometime, don’t call her, don’t answer her phone calls. Move on. Start going out with your friends and meet new girls. The fun and excitement you had with her will return, but with a different women.
It’s hard, but you’ll be okay in the end and much happier.
2007-02-20 04:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by dirtmojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were in a four year relationship. its not uncommon to want to sleep with her. why did you break up to begin with? let her know that you still want to be connected but you need space and distance. make your self busy and remember what you did before her. hang out with friends and keep busy
2007-02-20 04:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by sufreshman14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's nasty and spiteful. Take time to grieve for the loss (even though it's a good thing) then move on and find someone who has a heart.
2007-02-20 04:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just stay away from her and time will heal your wounds. Live your life and you never know you might meet someone better. Good luck
2007-02-20 04:24:32 · answer #9 · answered by vcheney84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you like her get back with her. You obviously still have feelings for her.
2007-02-20 04:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋