So I was talking to this guy and we hooked up. He told me he was single. I find out hes not and completely stop talking to him, Well she must have found out and flips out on me. I feel terrible because I would never knowingly do this. I tried to explain to her and she wouldnt listen and now shes still with him...what do i do?
2007-02-20 04:16:37 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh i dont want anything to do with him but i wish shed listen to me
2007-02-20 04:21:30 · update #1
Walk away from that whole situation and never look back. Sounds like you're dealing with bad people.
2007-02-20 04:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by MacLeod_73 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in her position. You would be mad too.
The only thing is you didn’t know he had a gf. You tired to explain but she wouldn’t listen. So I’m thinking she doesn’t want to believe the fact her boyfriend just cheated on her and for this reason I feel sorry for her. I doubt you were the first and you surely won’t be the last.
If you want to make peace with the girl my suggestion is write her a letter or email her. Explain the situation. If she would like to sit down and talk to you about it, great! If not. Move on. Next time, do a little research on the guy before you hook up.
Best of luck!
2007-02-20 12:45:07 · answer #2 · answered by dirtmojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sister, you did your job. You tried to explain to her that you wouldn't do that knowingly, but she's an *** because she should be pissed at the guy who is supposedly in a relationship with ONLY her. You don't need to do anything else. Just leave them be and let him keep cheating on her and let her keep being the fool. Think about it, you're actually lucky. He's a jerk, a cheater, and he isn't YOUR problem, he's hers : )
You have nothing to feel terrible about. It's not your fault. Now if the girl keeps harassing you that's a whole other story. All you need to do is keep reminding her how you knew nothing about her and she is mad at the wrong person. But if she doesn't know that already, then don't waste your breath.
2007-02-20 12:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been in the same boat.
I wonder what he told her? Guys can be so sneaky with things like that. I think the best thing to do would be to write it all in a letter to her what happened between the two of you and give it to her in person, so he doesn't know. Let her read it and form her own opinion. If she's still with him, thats her loss. He'll most likely do it again, THEN she'll find out who he really is, fell like an idiot and maybe come back to you and apologize
2007-02-20 12:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by nico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You should try and explain that you have nothing to gain from this and you just want to let her know the truth about the situation. If she still flips then forget the both of them
2007-02-20 12:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and be more careful. Obviously you didn't know him well enough when you "hooked up with him." I assume this means have sex. Next time take more time to get to know someone before you hook up with them.
As for his girlfriend just break all contact with him and she should leave you alone. If she lives near you it may take longer but usually if she knows you are staying away she will leave you alone. Just because you hooked up with him doesn't mean she is going to leave him or he is going to leave her.
2007-02-20 12:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe if it happens a few more times, she'll realize it's a problem with the man, not the with the females.
i think you've done what you could. she's listening to her boyfriend's side over yours. there isn't much other than it happening again with someone else that may open her eyes.
2007-02-20 12:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should be turning her anger towards her cheating husband. Let it go and move on...you can't make her see beyond what she wants to see.
It's a hard lesson to learn. Just be more careful the next time around.
2007-02-20 12:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are part of the problem. Hooking up with a guy that you hardly know is your problem, him being a lying cheating dog is his problem.
Learn from it and get to know someone before you are screwing them.
2007-02-20 12:22:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that you're dealing with Children. Or ones that act like it. Wait until you become an Adult. People, who are grown up. Don't do that.
2007-02-20 12:21:18 · answer #10 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋