I had been dating a girl for 2 years and she was really sweet one year and then the next she totally went bipolar on me, and then i left her. So now after about 8 months ive finally found another girl that im comfortable with and we've been dating for almost a month. But sometimes i make the mistake of mentioning my ex and now my new girlfriend thinks that i still have feelings for my ex when in reality i don't in the least! I really need to know how to convince her how i have genuine feelings for her and none for my ex.
2007-02-20 04:14:07 · 4 answers · asked by tw 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just have to keep telling her. Remind her that your ex made you miserable because she was crazy and insecure.
That should tell your new gal too that insecurity won't work.
And stop mentioning your ex! My friend's BF took her to Hawaii, and mentioned everyplace they went in Hawaii what he did with the ex when they were in Hawaii and how it had been his best vacation ever.... WTF!
We don't want to hear about exes unless it is how much better we are!
2007-02-20 04:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by cathoratio 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your current relationship is very new, so it is quite normal to have insecurities. One of the biggest insecurities we can have involve the x........does he still care for her, would he go back to her, does he miss her, etc. Never say anything good about your x to your new girl, then it sounds like u do still care and u miss her. It is best not to talk about her at all, but if she asks questions, only mention the things that u didn't like, and why u are no longer with her, don't say how sweet she was for the first year, or that u loved her, because those words are the ones that will stick in her head. Stick to talking about "her", and how she makes u feel. You can say things like.........."u make me happier than I have ever been", " I have never had someone treat me so well", "you are the type of girl I have been searching for".......all these things let her know that she is giving u something that no other girl has, and this will give her more security. Just know that what she is going through is quite normal, and it will pass in time as u build your relationship and she feels how much u care about her, and not your past. Just have patience, that is the most important thing.
2007-02-20 12:46:46 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first off you say that with your ex there was this "really sweet year" and when you are talking about this girl you are "comfortable with". Ummmm.....that doesn't sound right.
It has been 8 months ...... I think continuous talking about your ex is disrespectful to your new girlfriend. You need to understand that.
But I think you need to be honest with yourself and move on. If this last girl was your first love you will always have feelings for her....you have to understand that there are different loves. And 2 years of being with someone leaves an impression on your heart. Anyone you will ever love is going to leave an impression.
After 1 month of dating the new girl and all love is forgotten...come on....be honest with yourself.
2007-02-20 12:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by nikki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You still have feelings for your 'ex' and you got to accept that.
What you should do now are to show your feelings for your new girl and restrain from mentioning any girl in front of her.
2007-02-20 14:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by E A C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋