I have been in a relationship with a guy for two months, though I've known him for quite a long time. I thought it was going so well and everything seemed perfect. Then he went out of town this weekend and came back Monday and broke up with me. I'm so confused. He says he's been thinking about it for a while and that it just doesn't feel right between us. Other than that he gave me no explanation. I thought everything was great. It makes me wonder if something happened this weekend... should I just leave it alone or demand an explanation?? I care about him and still want to be there for him, but I'm hurt, and I feel like I have a right to know why he's doing this. Anyone have any suggestions?
2007-02-20 04:08:54 · 21 answers · asked by MaryJane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow you guys - the response in overwhelming. thank you so much. I going to take a little bit of advice from all of you. First, I'm going to tell him that I'm okay, because I am. I'm going to ask him to tell me the truth, becuase I deserve to know and because I need it to move on. Then I WILL move on and let go. Maybe some day we can be friends again, but for now I think he needs to just leave me alone for a while.
When in doubt, I will remember that a girl needs a guy like a fish needs a bike :) THANKS AGAIN!! :)
2007-02-20 04:33:18 · update #1
Perhaps something did happen this past weekend and he felt it was wrong to stay with you cuz he'd have to explain why he's feeling "guilty" bout something...so figured it was better to let you down easy by saying he's been thinking of this for a while now. I would still ask him straight out what happend this past weekend? He probably won't give you an Honest answer so unfortunately...you'll have to accept whatever comes out of his mouth and try to move on. You're goin to HURT for a while cuz you have no real reason as to what and why this happend. Sorry you're feeling so hurt....understandably so....
Keep yourself busy and try to move forward with your life. THe hurt will subside with time> GOODLUCK*
2007-02-20 04:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would it really make a difference to know? So what if he did go out of town this weekend and meet someone so he came home and broke up with you. What good will do to know? It won't change anything and possibly he's protecting your feelings by not telling. Leave it alone. It sounds like he's not worthy of you anyway! You deserve someone that will communicate better with you. It sounds like, since you thought everything was o.k. and he didn't, that he's not a good communicater and is closed off! You need someone more open and honest! Keep looking! He's out there somewhere!!
2007-02-20 04:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by Kimbermom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men hate when women handle a break up well, It makes them think they made the wrong decision to leave you. Just call and tell him your okay with the break up and that you had been contemplating the same thing. And let him know you still want to be friends. This way you can still save the friendship but you can also make him jealous. While being friends tell him that your interested in one of his friends. He'll either be all for it or totally distraught. If he's okay with it than he defiantly doesn't have feelings for you but if he gets jealous than maybe you should ask him why he feels that way. It might open the door for you relationship
2007-02-20 04:23:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you do have a right to know. Why don't you ask him to discuss his reasons for dumping you out of the blue? "What happened over the weekend?" or "If you've been feeling this way for so long, why haven't you spoken up sooner so we could have worked things out?"
You deserve an explanation, but you can't force him to feel the same way about you if he really wants out of the relationship. If i were you I would just want an explanation so i could have closure. good luck
2007-02-20 04:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by peaches87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 14:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by bornhoft 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have two answers to this:
1. Maybe something did happen when he went out of town.
2. It is possible he has been thinking about breaking it off and his time alone while he was out of town clarified this for him. If you want to keep your friendship with him try to discuss this with him and find out exactly what happened. If you want an explination for explination sake, leave it alone....that will cause nothing but hurt.
Good luck!
2007-02-20 04:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by supergoober 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You DO have a right to know. He broke your heart when you least expected it, so you have the right to at least know what's going on and why he's breaking up with you. Tell him you need an explanation. If he says he doesn't have one, tell him that there must be some reason he broke up with you, because if there wasn't, he wouldnt have broken up with you in the first place! Have fun. :)
2007-02-20 04:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. He already told you why. He wasn't feeling what you were. I'm sorry that you got hurt. If you go to him and demand and further explanation I'm afraid you'll be hurt further. Also demands tend to push people further away and that's not what you want to do.
2007-02-20 04:17:09 · answer #8 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's seeing someone else and was just enjoying the time he had with you?
i would just try and get over it. guys are jerks.. they dont understand how we feel.. find someone who wants to be in your life..
sometimes if your friends for a long time that seems to work out better. . dont take it personal maybe he just realized you guys are not a match.. theres plenty of fish in the sea.. you will be ok.
2007-02-20 04:17:18 · answer #9 · answered by deniseinoakland@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. This happen with me and my first boyfriend, just out of the blue he wants to break up with me with all time famous like "Its me not you". I held on to that for hella days cause I didn't know that what that meant. But that just made it hurt even worse. So my advice is to just let it go....no matter how hard it hurts, and I know it does, just let it go.
2007-02-20 04:16:33 · answer #10 · answered by tiff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋