younger b/f is saying he wants kids,and knows I can`t?

Question

Hi there all,
My younger b/f of 10 years (he`s 26,I`m 36) is saying he would like kids,yet knows I can not.
We have talked about this,and he says he wishes he could have his own children.
I honestly think he has been looking for someone else.
We live together,and he says he loves me,yet when we talked about breaking up,he said he would feel as if hes abandoning me.
Am I jsut having insecurities,or is this something to really be concerned with.
Let me also add,he phones me everyday and helps out around the house.
Take care,and thankyou in advance for all answers.
Sunflower

Answer 1

That's a tough one. Have you talked about adoption? Or you can have a serigant mother. I think he really does love you. i wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

That's a long time to be together for it to be an issue now. One thing you haven't clarified is wether or not you want to raise kids. If you don't want to raise any children or he really wants to have children that are born of his wife, it is better that you part now on good terms than let it drag out to an inevitable breakup down the road.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to tell you this, but it sounds to me like he wants to break up, but doesn't want to hurt you. Phoning every day and helping out around the house might be his way of easing his guilty conscience. He clearly knows you cannot have children, yet he tells you he wishes he could have his own. Good luck, and I hope it works out for you.

HUGS