I've met someone who is good looking,seems nice,acts like a gentleman, nothing has happened between us yet., not even kissing( but its on the cards!!!)..he has told me he has never had a girlfriend and that he is a virgin! and he was completly serious about this!...... should i believe him and do my duty and show him the ways of the world...lol !or run like mad cause he could be gay ? or a pathological liar! I am 38, well experienced and not gullible!!! but he is so nice
2007-02-20 03:50:11 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
believe him, its not a bad thing, he may have been waiting for the right person, and that could be you, lol. Just see how it goes
2007-02-20 03:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by Lucy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Excuse me, but does it matter? If he is a virgin, or if he is not, you should be getting into the relationship for other reasons, not for sexual points . Ask yourself what you think of the statement. Do you want to "deflower" a virgin or would you like an experienced man. Unless you discussed that with him, he would not even know, as a liar, whether the virgin card was his ace or his joker. It is just a fact, like, he has blue eyes, or ginger hair or a house or a car. Any concerns you might have about promiscuity should be dealt with in the usual protective way. If we all start relationships from the premise, "is he lying?", we never get anywhere and you might just miss a prize catch.
2007-02-20 05:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by GARY W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell ya but I think he's lying. First of all, by your description: "good looking, seems nice, acts like a gentleman..." It's hard to pull that off for 33 years without anyone taking notice. I know ugly, socially challenged guys that age that still get some. It's soooo unlikely that his story is true, unless he was studying for the priesthood the last 15 years. Why is he lying? Any woman would consider it an honor and a privilege to, as you put it, "show him the ways of the world". It's a pretty good angle to work if you're like 21 or 22 but 33 is really pushing it. Good Luck!!!
2007-02-20 04:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by Leohades 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 27 and wish I didnt shag around as much as I have. Infact if someone told me they was a virgin, I would say well done. Its nothing to feel bad about. I think its something to be respected. Go for it if he is ok.
And also thinking about it all sex is is a thing going into a what-you-call-it a few times. If someone hasnt done it, its not a big deal.
Also it depends how he said it. If he said "ive never shagged a women", that would get me asking questions like is he a bummer? You hear of strait blokes turning gay (Barrymoore, elton john etc) so why cant they turn the other way?
2007-02-20 04:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by lister_larger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when a fully-grown mature man of 33 years old claims he's a virgin he probably is. That must have taken him a lot of bottle. So please be sincere.
He lack of experience with women will show and I can say that no man on this plant will brag about being a virgin. But, I think it is something special. The Gentlemen is not the typical 'Jack the lad'. He has a reserved and prudent approach to life and kept himself to himself.
May I ask does he have confidence problems or lead a trouble life perhaps?
Anyway, show him the ropes!
Good Luck!
2007-02-20 04:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by Richie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck, ask him "why" he is still a virgin...you can tell a lot by the type and sincererity of the answer. I always say, get in to a little argument with them...you can tell A LOT by what happens...I have weeded though many a "frog" (and baaaaaad tempers) by doing just that...you will always see someone's "true colors" when they are angry....
(and I don't mean pick a BIG fight...just some little something to see how he'll react...he'll probably come clean on the "virgin" matter when mad...)
2007-02-20 04:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by Toots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would examine his other behaviors to see if he's trustworthy. However, it's entirely possible he could be telling the truth. I've known nice, attractive guys in their 20's-30's who didn't have experience with girls because they were too shy, too picky, or following their religious convictions. Maybe he hasn't found someone that he would be comfortable with until now. If he doesn't do anything that raises a red flag, I would believe him. Side tip: If you know his friends, pay attention to their conversation and observe what kinds of comments they make about your friend and other girls. See if what they say upholds his story. But if you aren't getting any suspicious hunches and you like him, enjoy his company!
2007-02-20 04:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would believe it. It isn't something generally guys like to admit to because of the very reason your stating "Is he gay" "Is something wrong with him?" "Is he lying". I mean think about all the things he could say...and he says that. To me it's honesty. It is possible that he hold the intimacy of sex to a higher degree than some men. If he hasn't had a relationship it is probable because he may feel that he has to state this (how sad this society is to make a man feel worthless for NOT having sex...) and thus girls run thinking like you.
If I had this guy, from what you have shared, I hang on to the treasure that he is and if he wants to wait for marriage to share himself that is all the better. Then you'll be seen as some sort of goddess ;) and he'll worship you...this guy is a very rare gem, and I dare say he'd be worth the wait.
2007-02-20 03:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle_My_Belle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I would believe that. My husband was a virgin when I met him. You need to first talk to his family. If they confirm what he is saying to be true, then you can relax. Otherwise, your man is a liar and should be blood tested before anything physical takes place. Including kissing. Thank you and good luck.
2007-02-20 04:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my male friend is 34 & in exactly the same situation. To the extent that I'm accompanying him @ his sister's wedding as his extended family believe he's gay cos he's never been serious enough about anyone to take her to a family 'do'. His Grandma spent hlf hr @ the last 1 telling him to be "tru to himself" & to "Come out the closet" So, I'm bailing him out on this 1.
If he's choosing to give this gift to you then if were you i'd be honoured.
2007-02-20 10:46:03 · answer #10 · answered by Bubbly Blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always give the benifit of the doubt. Until you can prove otherwise. Does he say he's been saving himself for marriage? Or just hasnt found that special someone? Have you met his friends yet? You should be able to tell by what kind of friends he has. I know that sounds odd, but think about it. Is he a loner? or does he have lots of active friends? Are his friends shy and reserved or outgoing and agressive? You can always read someone by what kind of friends they have!
2007-02-20 03:56:05 · answer #11 · answered by Jenny 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋