2007-02-20 03:46:27 · 14 answers · asked by Lin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we've been together for 6 years, and he's always had trust issues, but my email password is one thing i haven't shared with him that he seems intent on getting, saying i'm hiding something from him, which i'm not, i just can't explain to him that I need my privacy, because he gets so offended.
2007-02-20 04:32:31 · update #1
Do you have his passwords? Passwords to what, anyway? If he wants the passwords to your email, or some online thing, maybe. But only if you really, REALLY want him to have access to your stuff. How long have you been together?
It's not a matter of trust, anyway. It's a matter of respecting personal boundaries. Trusting someone does not mean that you are not allowed to have privacy. Maybe he only wants your passwords because he doesn't trust you. Did you think about that? He does not own you just because he's your boyfriend. He sounds immature.
If he wants the password to your ATM card - DEFINITELY NOT! If that is the case, RUN and don't look back.
2007-02-20 03:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by geoxena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO!
passwords are private for a reason. first of all, he's just your boyfriend and who knows how long you'll be together. it's not like your married and living together with kids so imagine if you both broke up and he still had access to all your information. think of all the horrible things he could do with access to things like your voicemail, email, atm account(s), etc. if he wanted revenge or became even more jealous than he already is. if he wants your passwords than tell him he needs to give you his too. then you can both trust each other in all fairness. you can also set up separate accounts with passwords just for him to use so you can keep your real accounts and passwords private. if you wouldnt even give your mother or best friend your passwords, then what gives him the right to have that information??? telling someone they're not trusting when they have no proof sounds a little insecure and even more untrustworthy to me....
2007-02-20 12:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by madi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is that insecure, dump him. Everyone has a right to their privacy. If he doesn't trust you now, what's gonna happen down the road when you and your girlfriends go out without him. He will probably be abusive. He is an insecure loser and if you give him your passwords, He could really screw up your life. Honey, try to drop him easy but I think he will try to mess with you so round up your girl scouts and make sure he knows that he will never date a girl again if he is abusive to you. He will be exposed to the world for the insecure and demanding person that he is.
2007-02-20 11:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by John A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless you want to! Even when your married to someone, you have a right to your privacy. If a boy uses the old line " if you loved me and trusted me you would", turn it around and tell him the same thing! 'If you loved and me trusted me you wouldn't mind giving me my privacy". The rule for things like this is: if he thinks it of you, he's probably doing it already himself! Remember, real love has no ultimatums or conditions! Real love loves you unconditionally and restpects your space!
2007-02-20 11:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by Kimbermom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lin!I hope you get me right.there are so many ways of showing your boyfriend that you trust him and you can be trusted.It is your right to kep your password to yourself.However if you feel that it is ok with you to give it out to your byfriend then it is up to you.In relationship,we need not open up to our partners 100%.There is some percentage that ought to be ours.If there is something that hinders you from giving out your password to him then keep to yourself,but it shouldint be something fish that you are doing behibnd his back.
2007-02-20 11:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by african hunk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to your privacy even though you are in a relationship. It sounds like he doesn't trust you and wants to control that aspect of your life. I say keep them to yourself.
2007-02-20 11:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by agentm006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by asking for your passwords it seems like HE doesn't trust YOU.
i don't think you should give them to him. tell him you need your personal space and that emails and passwords are part of that.
2007-02-20 11:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by via 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't think you should. I did. Once my boyfriend broke up with me, he was going through my e-mails to see if I was talking to anyone. I had to change my password. If you do decided to give him your password, you tell him that you want his. Good luck
2007-02-20 12:07:17 · answer #8 · answered by valentyn_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no dont do that i mad e a mistake of doing that once and my ex went in a ****** with my email and my myspace and a whole bunch of other **** its your privacy keep it even if hes ur bf he just dont trust you if he wants your password
2007-02-20 12:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bulls-hit. You have a right to your privacy. Your boyfriend can hardly expect you to share everything with him. Tell him to butt out.
2007-02-20 12:18:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋