i started dating my boyfriend in early january. he's told me he loves me, and i can tell he really does ( i hope). and when he first told me, i just said "you too", not to make him feel bad. but then i told him that i really like him, but need more time to love him. he respected that. later on i finally did fall in love with him...i thought. i'm still not so sure. i mean, i think i love him, but i still think i need more time. i still want to be with him though. some people fall in love easier and quicker than others right?
2007-02-20 03:42:58 · 19 answers · asked by kb293 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
very true!! it takes time and thats great that he understands it! so just take your time!! good luck!
2007-02-20 03:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by tls_2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this question really has no right or wrong answer what your asking for is my opinion right? Well,before i give you that, let me ask do you think you love him because he says he loves you and acts as if he does? Once you answer that for yourself then you are on the path of knowing if you really love him for him and not for the affection he gives you. Personally for a long time i didn't know if i loved my husband, even well after we had been together for years. Don't expect to know so soon how your heart really feels and yes everyone is different and every relationship is different none compare to one another in how love can be or is measured and it's my opinion that it can be defined if you really love that person. Next time he says he loves you ask him why if he answers because i do or i just do or i dont know i just do, then he doesnt really know himself he is just very happy with you and you know that you are very happy with him so that is the beginning of a good relationship don't waste time worrying about this enjoy the ride don't try and figure out how it works while your on it :D
2007-02-20 03:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by KarenLynne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it takes time to fall in love, and love can change over time. I told my boyfriend I loved him a couple months after we started dating, and I meant it them. Four and a half years later, I love him even more. I think love is something that grows inside of you, so wait until you are sure you're ready to say I love you.
2007-02-20 03:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by blue_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same, been with my fella for 4 years, was head over heels for him at first but the past 2 years I've had doubts, What you need to work out is do you love him or are you IN LOVE with him......you love your mum, friends etc so being IN LOVE is different. I think with my fella I Love him, i think if i truly look at us we are just the bestest mates anyone could ever wish for and that's why i still think i want to be with him
2007-02-20 03:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by arlvsrf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is something you have to build. You can say you love somebody but it is only their actions that will prove it. You can love something but it does take some time to fall in love with it. Love is self sacrificing and it envolves put somebody else before you. So don't feel bad if you aren't in love with him completely! Love takes time! Hope it all turns out for the best!!! ;)
Jonathan
2007-02-20 03:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by none 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't force yourself into this, love takes time, you're absolutely right. Stay with him if you feel good, just enjoy that for now. It is early in your relationship to share those words. After a few months you'll know either way.
2007-02-20 03:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by daughter_helping 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are simple ways to tell if you are truly in love with him... 1) How do you feel when you are not with him? 2) How do you feel when you think of him with someone else?? Mad - you are not quite there yet... sick to your stomach - you are in love! Love is something you know - without doubt - that you are in. This guy may just be a nice relationship - but believe me... you want that heart-throbbing feeling everytime you look at him.
2007-02-20 03:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 10:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is a crazy thing. some poeple fall hard and fast. others fall in slow to make sure they don't get in over their head and get hurt. As long as you feel good with him then go ahead and take it slow. If he loves you he will let it happen instead of forcing it to happen.
2007-02-20 03:48:33 · answer #9 · answered by masterzuaba 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i love my boyfriend and we just started dating 2 weeks ago. I have love for him but like a conditional love. Not like unconditional you know what i mean. But we've liked eachother for about 3 years so yea we built that love up.
2007-02-20 03:47:40 · answer #10 · answered by Emo C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your heart knows better?Why do you hesitate?Are you going to drag this out to see if you were right?Mabe you don't trust?Could be alot of reasons.Mabe something about him is causing some concern so take your time and ask him more questions.But if you are waiting for your heart to melt or something i think you are wasting both of your times
2007-02-20 03:50:34 · answer #11 · answered by walter_nahbexie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋