Why do women ignore me?

Question

I just do not get it. I know I am not the best looking man. However, I am well-dressed and well-groomed. For example, I always wear a shirt, tie, nice cufflinks, etc. I am also very quiet. Nevertheless, women have always ignored me all my life. I will reach 25 years of age later this year and will still be single!

Answer 1

Maybe you are too quiet... (too mysterious)
Which may be perceived as anti-social...you may be giving a "vibe" of not being approachable or stuck up or think you are better than everyone OR to be honest, maybe the ladies think you are gay because you dress nice and are tidy.
Do you see what I'm saying?

Many women are attracted to friendly, funny guys...it isn't always about appearances. (Having a great cologne is helpful)

Quiet guys can seem creepy and socially handicapped. People are impatient and may not want to take the time to try to crack your shell to get you to open up and see what you are about. They may look at it like..'do I want to invest that time only to find out he's a dud?'
I would say to you... try baby steps of opening up a little... show your charm or wit but at the same time don't over do it...it'll seem like you are trying to hard. You have to tease people with glimpses of your personality so they want to hang around and see more of it....leave them wanting more.

Hope you see what I'm saying.

(I'm shy & pretty quiet but I've learned to make eye contact and smile so a person knows I'm receptive to a conversation...it seems to work for me.)

Good luck to you!
(Don't worry about being 25 and single...enjoy it as you would being involved... there's good and bad to either one.)
(I'd worry if you're 45 and never been involved... you would have to really evaluate your life then!)

Take care & smile.

Answer 2

Looks are important, but personality is what will make heads turn. If you are good looking but stay quiet in a corner, nobody will notice you. You might be lucky one day and someone will come to you, but is not what usually happens.

Go with some friends out (better if some girls come alone so is not a “bunch of wolves” after women there) and go clubbing, or something like that. If you don’t know how to dance, I suggest learning some basic moves. Today dancing can be jumping like a monkey so it should not be difficult... LOL

Get attention, don’t be ridiculous, just get some attention, and if you start any conversation with a girl, be spontaneous, be yourself, and don’t be afraid of rejection. If you get rejected, is ok, move on as you have all night and lots of girls to look for.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Things arent always about appearance.... I cant speak for other women, but I myself like a guy who is outgoing... I am the quiet type so I need someone to take charge of things and be outspoken when I meet him. I usually get comfortable around people after knowing them for a while and my dominance and assertiveness comes out, however for the inital interest, I want a guy who is well spoken. If your quiet, you wouldnt catch my eye. A guy can be really gourgious but unless he makes a impression on me without me having to see him, then I take no interest.

Suggestion, try working on your personality some. I am not implying to change it, but maybe make yourself a lil more open to become easier to read, your body language also might be setting girls off as the creepy weird guy because your well dressed but so quiet... maybe not dressing so formally every day and trying a different style might appease or attract.

Answer 4

Don't be so quiet. People like somebody they can converse with and somebody that won't shy away. Lose the shyness, and put on some confidence, this will help very much. (shirt, tie, and cufflinks are okay for some occassions, suck as work, but sometimes a t-shirt and jeans can be even more sexy when things are casual).

Answer 5

go for a more casual look jeans n t shirt is better i would never approach a guy dressed in suit shirt n tie etc unless it was a wedding and all the guys were dressed like that maybe women think you are too posh or uptight because of the way you dress???

Answer 6

You sound like a very normal nice person.
Unfortunately too many people are surface plastic people and they don't give you a chance.
You need to join some social group with lots of people lots of people and all of a sudden you may get a surprise but give it a few social groups and some time. You sound like if you came across the right person you'd probably do real well with a relationship.

Answer 7

BE PATIENT..you will find someone Maybe you should approach women instead. Some women don't approach men like yourself because they think you wouldn't want to talk to them or probably think you are married. These days these men dress a mess, I'm glad to know you have class. You'll meet a woman with class. But don't be so shy, but don't be so eager and desperate either.

Answer 8

Then quit acting & thinking like a woman! Are you trying to attract guys?

Women expect you to come to them, not the other way around. If you sit in the corner and say nothing, you will be waiting a very loooooong time for any woman to come over to talk to you.

Learn to overcome your shyness, and learn how to talk to people. if that sounds daunting, start small, and try to start brief conversations with the guy at the check-out while you are waiting for your burger or groceries (gets you used to talking to strangers about how their day went).

Answer 9

What makes you think they are ignoring you. If you have your self confidence and self esteem in place women will be flocking all over you. Maybe you are always busy focusing on how not goodlooking you are, or how women are ignoring you. Why don't you try focusing on how good looking you are and how many good and potential qualities you have. Women, like men, like people have confidence in themselves.

Answer 10

Maybe, the reason is because you are too shy. When you go out you should try to make the first move. I'm sure once you start talking and get to know each other better things will go your way. You just need to get the ball rolling. GOOD LUCK!