I really can't seem to get him. So here goes the short version.
A. We're coworkers. But I'd say we were pretty good friends.
B. When we are having a conversation with a large group he seems to keep all his attention on me.
C. He'll always accidentally touch me, or he won't move away from my touch.
D. He always hugs me. And he hugs me last, which in one of my guy friends opinion thats a good thing...
E. People think we are dating. Or say we should date. I've had people ask me if he's my boyfriend.
F. He always does the little things for me. He'll always grab my things.
G. He smiles a lot.
Right. So since he wasn't doing anything and since all the people who had responded to this question before said yes he likes you I took a big step gave him a valentine and told him I like you. Now, it's been what a week and he hasn't said anything about it. He was out of town for the long weekend. Anyways, yesterday was the first time we saw each other since I told him. See additional details!!!!
2007-02-20 03:31:37 · 13 answers · asked by Ni-Kay! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Continuing on...Nothing seemed weird. At least I don't think so. I felt like he acted the same. He smiled still a lot. I felt like though maybe something had changed and that it was a better change. I don't know. Any ideas on what to look for??? I'm at such a loss, I mean really wouldn't he have said anything by now?
2007-02-20 03:33:22 · update #1
There is some obvious body language you listed - touching you "accidentally", not moving away from you, hugging in general, etc. My hunch is he's attracted to you.
The key here is to stop wondering and break the ice. Either he does or he doesn't find you attractive, but if he does he's either not comfortable being overt and making a move or he's simply a nice guy who likes you as a coworker and doesn't mind the minor physical contact. The only way you're going to find out short of subterfuge and games - never a good idea, as it's difficult to build trust with someone if you're not upfront from the beginning - is to move into the ballgame yourself. Stop wondering; invite him to lunch or dinner, tell him you find him attractive or that you'd like to go on a date, and see what happens.
If it's simple and he likes you, he'll go. If it's complicated and he likes you...well, better that you find that out before you get attached. If he just wants to be friends, you'll probably feel a little embarrassed but if he's as nice as he appears he won't hold it against you and you can go about your business.
2007-02-20 03:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by Claidmaugh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think he either thinks of you as his best friend and really enjoy being around you (Like I am with this one girl I know) and you scared him a little by showing a little bit of an interest in him or...
He doesn't know what to do now and is all confused. Maybe he thinks it is all a big misunderstanding. Although, I do hope the best for you two. I would just continue on how things are right now and be your best self. Maybe do a couple little things for him and see how he reacts. But do ask yourself if you do like him, for yourself and then follow your heart.
I hope everything works out and the both of your will be happy with the outcome!
2007-02-20 03:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by Raise The Bahr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don’t YOU invite him out to eat, maybe dinner one night (soon!) and have a more private conversation with him.
You don’t have to be direct, but you can say you like to be with him, and that you like him, and you think you guys are very good friends, blah blah. He should respond to this by telling you his feelings.
If things go well, the night will end on a nice kiss (or maybe more… LOL). And if not, then since you are friends, you two can just end up being the same friends.
I personally think (from your description) that he might be shy or afraid to make the big move, so you should help him out. It might become a mutual “move” and both of you will end up together.
Good luck! And have fun!
2007-02-20 03:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would have said something by now if he liked you. Sorry sweetie - but guys are much different than girls. I have a feeling if he is acting like that with you, then there are probably 10 other girls he is acting like that with on the side (outside of work). Best to find a guy that will only have eyes for you...
2007-02-20 03:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think there is any correct answer to that because he may have just been doing all of those things because he likes your attention. why, i have no clue. but there also is a strong possibility that he likes you, but now that he knows you like him back, he is shy. you can always ask him whats going on... i mean, for some guys, they are determined to show a girl that they like them, but then chicken out when the girl realizes it and says she likes him too. i still think you should talk to him about it because this IS really confusing.
2007-02-20 03:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by Joanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally think that he likes you but he aint really to have a comiment with you yet for now i would just try to talk to him and tell him what going on if he wants something seriuos or he is jusy playing with u
2007-02-20 03:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by sandra r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him alone at work somewhere privet and kiss him and tell him to MAN UP and ask you out!!! You will feel better and realy let him know were you stand!!!
2007-02-20 03:36:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anthony R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if he is married or sorry to say gay!!! You seem like a nice girl, go out and have some fun!!!
Huggs and Kisses,,,
Lonnie
2007-02-20 03:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm thinking that he likes you alot as a friend flirt with him a little and then go out AS FRIENDS if it goes good take it further
2007-02-20 03:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by Dr.D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's way too shy it sounds like....ask him out
2007-02-20 03:34:59 · answer #10 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋