Child Abuse?

Question

What is emotional and mental abuse of a child?

It's my granddaughter,her mother is in an abusive relationship.Some days she says he is then other days she says he isn't. he controls her every move, she has to call him ever 15 min. He keeps her kids away from her as much as posible (girl 5yrs. boy 2yrs.)It's like I have to talk to somebody .
Thanks vrousar

Answer 1

Emotional abuse has to do with a parent, or someone else that's seen as a trusting authority figure, using the child's emotions as leverage. Things like withholding love because the parent wants to control the child is an example of emotional abuse. This kind of abuse attacks the child's self-worth, and makes them feel as if they are worthless.

"Emotional abuse is a pattern of behavior that attacks a child's emotional development and sense of self-worth. Emotional abuse includes excessive, aggressive or unreasonable demands that place expectations on a child beyond his or her capacity. Constant criticizing, belittling, insulting, rejecting and teasing are some of the forms these verbal attacks can take. Emotional abuse also includes failure to provide the psychological nurturing necessary for a child's psychological growth and development -- providing no love, support or guidance (National Committee for the Prevention of Child Abuse, 1987)."
http://www.safechild.org/childabuse3.htm

Here is a good site that explains the different types of emotional abuse:

http://www.preventchildabuse.com/emotion.htm

Answer 2

My life: From birth to 17 years old... and a good deal of it afterward too as a result.

I didn't completely recover but at least now, I am away from them and healing as a result.

Faulty parenting causes poor choices, bad decisions and set's a child up for a horrible life. Mine failed, because He was the kind of person who could never stand to see anyone be better than him at anything. So he held down 6 lives... causing a sick manipulative need/repulsion based co-dependence that resulted in drug and alcohol addiction in all of us kids, one death and butt loads of mental health issues and self esteem problems...

He couldn't have anyone know more, be better than, have more, become more, or live... apart from his control, to an extreme where he would rather have seen us dead. and in the case of one of my brothers... That is exactly what happened.

He thinks that he was a great Father. Loving and nurturing and thinks that 6 people are completely nuts to ever say anything bad about him. Completely convinced of his own perfection!

He was very wealthy and used money as a bartering tool for love and effection and self worth, irrational, a liar, manipulative, contradictory, extremely violent, sexually, verbally, mentally, emotionally and physically abusive, defensive, crippling and more than likely extremely mentally ill?

By the way, My Mother was # 6. and as a result, No help to any of us kids because he got to her first!

Answer 3

Calling the child names and making them feel less than

Answer 4

My friend emotional and metal abuse are much the same and they can hurt just as bad as beating a child .......please don't let anyone do this to you its a form of self abuse and they try to control your mind into believeing that you are worthless ..please if this is happening to you please call the child abuse hotline where you live and talk to them please take care love kara

Answer 5

when that child is around screaming, at him/her or at others, when that child is told they are no good,stupid. when that child sees violence. when that child isn't nutured with love that child is being abused

Answer 6

shouting at them,, calling them names, insults, making them feel bad about something. etc...making fun of them.. They're small and don;t know much and need to be treated that way, this is how they learn.