My boyfriend is really busy and stressed in his final year of uni therefore we only see each other when he has time, every few weeks. This is really annoying because i miss him loads. He does want to see me but i dont think it botheres him as much as it does me. Is there anyway i can get him to want to see me more?
2007-02-20 03:19:10 · 24 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be busy when he calls that'll get him thinking you are making a life without waiting to be called i did it to my now hubby he suddenly made time to call more lol
2007-02-20 03:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never bothers guys as much - they are made differently. Don't take it so hard, if he was hanging out with his boys or playing PS2 then I'd have some harsher words, but the man is trying to finish his degree - that's important. I know it's hard, but try to bear with it a little. Ask him if perhaps you can come with him and help him study sometime - or what hobbies of your own you can be doing, quietly while he's studying? My fiance and I spend a lot of time in the same house/room, but sometimes we'll be doing completely different things. Being together doesn't have to mean snuggled up or holding hands while watching TV. Also ask him to take small breaks with you. Go to a coffee shop and discuss current events over a cup of Joe. Even if it's for 1/2 hour. Again, there isn't much you can do since it's about his schooling - if you push and try to force him to put you first, you will only stress him out more and may end up losing him. He's (or his parents) are paying for his education - he must work hard at it. Good luck.
2007-02-20 03:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is in his final year so why dont you give him a chance to complete his education, if he fails where can he get a job that is going to make him support you? think for him,he loves you more than anything and he wants the best for u and him,talk to him,tell him how much you miss him,he will tell you he misses you too,i think you want a better life too so education is the key to life,be an understanding woman,be good to him and he will never dissapoint you,dont be the first to dissapoint him because of his studies,maybe something else. Think of you when you were him and deeply in love with you,he was going to have the same problem you have.
2007-02-20 04:06:48 · answer #3 · answered by peedee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Final years are a very important and stressful time. If you're both in it for the long haul then show some appreciation and understanding for all the hard work he is putting in for the future. Keep your own interests, in case he's losing interest so you have plenty of people to be with if he naffs off when he's graduated.
2007-02-20 03:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by MI5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show ur love for him by being understandin and supportive to him during this time. if u pressure him to see him often than he can allow at the moment, u may lose him.
yes, he wants to see u but is not bothered much at the moment as he is involved with his last year and this takes his time. enjoy the time u spend with him. for the rest of the time that u don't see him, find something else to do. u can learn a hubby, go spend time with some friends, learn a course etc.
am sure u want him to get good grades, so just let him make this sacrifice of spendin his time with his books and by july, u will have him with u all the time if u want. only a few months left to go so be patient. ur wait will be worth it and he will really value u for this.
2007-02-20 03:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by rambo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds EXACTLY like me and my (now ex)boyfriend, but the other way round, i was the busy one.
U should not pester him 2 c each other, that really annoyed me, give him space and just try and c him when there is time but not every single minute he is free as we do all need alone time. To be honest thats why I finished with him because I just had no time for myself...
2007-02-20 03:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by rubymurray248 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so is the question how do you get your boyfriend to choose you over his educational future? he obviously sound like he's working hard to get ahead and you trying to distract him sounds like a bad idea.
a good idea might be to go to his place when he's studying and cook food or bring him things he might need so he can continue studying. that way when he's done with school he'll feel more secure with his position and maybe marry you.
2007-02-20 03:24:03 · answer #7 · answered by David M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't expect him to have time he doesn't have. Offer to make him dinner or bring him lunch, offer to come over and do his laundry or something, just to spend some time together. Offer to give him a back rub while he is studying. He is being really responsible, you need to be supportive.
Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-20 03:24:23 · answer #8 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant make him
im in my last year and stresed to hell and would not be able to handle a clingly bf now, there isnt long left to the end of the uni year just go out with your mates, if after he leaves he doesnt want to spend time with you then he just is not that into you
but if you cant cope for a couple of months without his attention i think you need to look at yourself a bit first and ask why you cant cope without him constantly being by your side.
2007-02-20 03:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by 5hell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling a little insecure? Stop putting your happines on seeing your boyfriend. It puts pressure on him and he'll eventually think you are psycho.
Try having your own pursuits. And then just be happy when you see him.
2007-02-20 03:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋