my parents are christians, but im agnostic. i haven't told them yet out of fear they will hate me. what should i do??
2007-02-20 03:17:37 · 15 answers · asked by Jess 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Don't cause issues until you have to. When you under your parent's roof, you might not want to cause that much unneeded friction. It will be an uphill battle. When you're on your own, you'll have much more freedom to express your worldview.
However, you are the best judge of your parents. Most parents are fairly liberal and won't go ballistic with such news. But some parents are more rigid in such things.
You have two things to ask yourself:
1) What benefit is there in telling them?
2) What friction will be caused by telling them?
2007-02-20 03:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by nondescript 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously doubt your parents will hate you. They will probably disapprove and they may tell you so, but that is not the same thing as hating you.
Back when I was agnostic I was completely honest with my Sunday schoolteacher mom. She didn’t approve, obviously, but she was wise enough to let the matter alone and allow me to find God in my own time and in my own way.
Remind them that parents do not raise clones. I hope they raised you to think for yourself and to be a confident, independent adult. This is what we are supposed to do as parent, not try to remake ourselves. You have your own mind and must learn things in your own way.
I think the important thing to remember is that if you come to a time when you want to turn back to God, know that he will receive you with great love, joy and comfort. Just keep the parable of the Prodigal Son with you. That is the story of the agnostic returning to God.
2007-02-20 03:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? I think the best thing to do while you are living under their roof is keep it your self and respect their wishes.
Sometimes the path of least resistance is the right path. What is having some agnostic coming out party going to get you? An argument? Smile...nod....and do your own thing.
What you believe is really between you and yourself anyway.
2007-02-20 03:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. Turn 21, move outta the house and no worries. They believe in an all powerful, omnipotent being that created and controls the universe. You, on the other hand, rely on reason to guide your cognition. Don't try and change them. Live your life, be good, do good things because it's the right thing to do - not because some mythical being tells you to.
2007-02-20 03:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by Skeezix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be very careful. Many members of my family look down on me; some refuse to allow their children to play with my daughter. This all started when I let it be known that I was an atheist.
Lol CMW what planet do you live on?
2007-02-20 03:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by Jensenfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a minor, you should do what your parents tell you. This by no means indicate that you have no rights. If they try to force you to go to church, that is another matter, that may have to be dealt with by the Court.
2007-02-20 03:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents probably will not hate you for telling them your feelings. they may try to change the way you think though. They may be afraid for you and pray for you. I would let them know how you feel.
2007-02-20 03:21:34 · answer #7 · answered by CL R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell your parents i doubt very much that they will hate or disown you unless they are extremists but it's better for you to be honest with them instead of living a lie
2007-02-20 03:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents won't hate you-take the bull by the horns. You owe it to them to be honest.
2007-02-20 03:21:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them what you've told us. If you're old enough to decide these matters, you're old enough to be honest with your parents about it.
2007-02-20 03:31:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋