I have a FRIEND, that I've truly come to love dearly. We have had an off and on sexual relationship for 6 years. And I truly did fall for him hard. But he married someone else. We still have an off again on again encounter every now and then sexually, even though he's still married. I am exhausted mentally because I just want to leave him alone. I truly want to lose his number and never talk to him again. I respect the fact that he is married and I'm engaged myself. I truly want to live my life without him for awhile and I can't seem to break free. Can anyone give me suggestions on how to slowly break free from someone you've loved for so long.
2007-02-20 03:12:18 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why in the world would you want to be an engaged mistress? Do you not love the person you've accepted a ring from? Obviously you don't because if you did you wouldn't be cheating on him with this shameless friend of yours. It doesn't bother you that you're breaking up a home, that you're a mistress and if he really cared about you he wouldn't have married someone else, he would've married you. If he really cared about you, he wouldn't put you in this situation. I can give you some information that will help you break away quickly. Have you ever heard of "alienation of affection"? Well, it's what his wife is going to use when she drags you into court and sues you for cheating with her husband especially since you know he's married. When the judge makes his/her ruling they're going to grant his spouse money that you'll have to pay and the reason will be "alienation of affection." You need to look that up and then decide if your little garden tool type ways with this married scum is worth a fortune to you. Then you need to call your fiance' and tell him that you're a garden tool and he deserves better than you. Give him back his ring because you're trash and you need to be put in a compost pile to decompose. You're nasty.
2007-02-20 03:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can break free with a strong mind and spirit. You really know the right thing to do, but you need affirmation. Well, I am going to give you affirmation. You need to end this part time friendship/relationship immediately. What you have to do is place this friend/lover into the right prospective. You loved him once, but now and correctly you must move on. What has happened, you have tried to move on physically so to speak, but mentally and emotionally you have not. You are still tied emotionally to him. Think about what is at stake. Do you love the person you are engaged to? Do you see yourself married to this other person? Do you want to become your friend's mistress? Or, do you want to rid yourself of this emotional monkey on your back and free yourself forever. There is no way you can slowly rid yourself and break free of this man. You have to end it totally and explain to him that this type of on off again relationship is not for you. If you continue with this relationship, you will be open to hurt and heartache. Best of Luck to you.
2007-02-20 11:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that this has to stop and the only way for it to succeed is to not talk to each other anymore. Explain to him that marriage means forever and you or him shouldn't jeopardize that. you're getting engaged and are obviously in love with the guy.Just think of how he would feel if he knew,and the same with the friends wife.
2007-02-20 11:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by FML 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez. You have no self-esteem. You are more interested in the chase than a real relationship. Don't you deserve a real relationship?
2007-02-20 11:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋