Do you believe in being courteous or rude?

Question

What experiences have you had in public with both courteous
and rude people?

Answer 1

I treat other people the way that I would like to be treated. Until given reason to do otherwise.

Answer 2

I believe in being courteous. I let someone go in front of me in line if they only have a few things and I have several, or I open a door for someone with their hands full when mine aren't. It really upsets me when people are either rude or just don't have common courtesies. For example, I have a 5 month old baby, who I carry in her infant carrier. I am usually toting her, a purse, a diaper bag, and possibly even some grocery sacks or something if I have gone shopping. I have noticed many times that people (especially men), can be very courteous and open doors and etc. I was leaving the dentist office a week or so ago with my infant daughter and my 6 year old. My daughter opened the first door to come out of the back, and then we had 2 more doors to go. A man sitting in the waiting room started to get up and asked me if I needed help, but I said that it was okay because my daughter could get it, but thank you very much. On the other hand, I was coming out of the health department on day, and they had a group of kids from the deaf school in the waiting room waiting for shots, and their bus driver was standing practially right next to the door. I was walking out with her in her carseat, diaper bag, purse, papers and a folder, car keys, all in my hand. Do you know what that guy did? He just stood there and watched me struggle with everything I had in my hands! And this time my 6 year old wasn't with me. Ugh! That just drives me insane. I make it a point to treat people how I would want to be treated, and to help people out if I can, and it drives me nuts when people don't give me the same courteousy.

Answer 3

I believe in being courteous and polite 95% of the time.
The other 5% is for when there is no other choice but to be assertive and marginally rude...like if you see someone mistreating someone/something else and something should be said.

I personally get a kick out of the reactions of strangers I'm being nice to for no particular reason... like if someone behind me at the cashier has one item and I have a lot... I let them go ahead of me... they usually look puzzled or suspicious but I don't mind.

In my experiences...courteous people are often friendlier, content and approachable folks with a sense of humour and wit. I've had several pleasant conversations with strangers who were kind in one form or another.

Rude people... well, as you would expect my answer would be opposite to the polite folks... They are suspicious, angry, 'shut-off', lack any social skills, impatient, cold and don't seem to possess social intelligence. There's no talking to those people and no one can expect much of anything from them (like understanding or patience).

Generally I go about my day treating others as I'd like to be treated with respect, civility, patience and kindness. If I'm confronted with someone rude...First I simply ignore them, if it persists... I smile.
If it continues I'll say in a pleasant calm tone "Is it necessary for you to behave that way?" or "Why do you have to be that way?".
If there is something further I'll leave in a huff and direct not so pleasant thoughts to them... or I'll convince myself they just don't know any better and hope they'll learn before someone less patient beats the lesson into them.

Just my opinion...

Answer 4

I work with the public all day. I run into rude people all the time. Some are not aware of their behavior. For example- I work in a public library. We have signs up asking people to turn off their cell phones or take their calls to the lobby. (A public library's lobby).

Some people don't see the signs and carry on conversations- this is extremely annoying not just to the staff but to our patrons as well. We ask them politely to take their calls to the lobby. Most oblige and apologize. I thank them for "helping us out." We do get people who are highly indignant that we interrupted their conversation. Luckily, we get back up from management.

I try to be nice to everyone. There is a saying 'You catch more flies with honey than you go with vinegar."

When I am the customer, I try to be polite. Even when I have a complaint, I try to be a pleasant as possible. After all, the person helping me probably wasn't responsible for my "problem."

I hope this helps.

Answer 5

I believe in behaving politely and courteous to all people. But I have no problem being rude when the situation calls for it.

Answer 6

Salespeople in stores I think are becoming increasingly rude I think. I try to be as courteous as possible even to people I don't know. Life is too short to be mean.

Answer 7

It depends on the situation. You really get no nowhere being rude. BUT, if youre getting nowhere being nice, then you might as well be rude, and really rip into them. That way it makes YOU feel better.*

Answer 8

I will be either, as the situation calls for. In life you need balance. Basically, if you're rude to me you're gonna get it back. If your kind to me then I will be likewise. I've met both types of people, but in bigger cities uo're more likely to meet the rudeness.

Answer 9

I believe that a gentlemen concerns him self about the comfort of other people.
B