Is this normal?
Me and my current have GREAT sex but our relationship is horrible.
Should I ditch the sex?
2007-02-20 03:05:20 · 4 answers · asked by baby_rost 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok I have to admit that I have done the same thing before. I am an extremely sexual person.
HOWEVER, sex is not the basis of a realtionship. Have you made suggestions to this person? Are you verbal in bed, tell them what you want. Most men are very egar to please. If you tell them you want something different most of the time they will change it for you!
2007-02-20 03:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by supergoober 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an old saying but a true one, that sex isn't all there is to any relationship, important though it is. It's about relating, ie what there is between the two of you that attracts you to one another and makes you want to be together. If it's as basic as simply liking the look of the other person and wanting sex with them, it's never going to last long or withstand the inevitable trials. There has to be a deeper, stronger bond between you.
What is it that you are looking for anyway? It's quite natural and perfectly normal to want someone to satisfy you physically and trying to deny yourself that will only lead to feelings of frustration and emptiness. Sex toys may be an answer for a while (and it always intrigues me that these seem to be more commonly used and acceptable for women than among men), but they are no substitute for the joys of having another human being, any more than porn is for men.
So, my advice would be to ditch the guy if he's horrible to you and look for someone nice. After all, if he's nice to be with and you feel comfortable talking to him, the chances are he's going to treat you well in bed. Satisfying your partner is the key to feeling fully satisfied yourself.
Anyone may fancy "a bit of rough" from time to time, but "rough" is what you'll get and most of us want a proper loving relationship.
You're worth that I'm sure and it'll be a lucky guy that finds your love in that way.
2007-02-20 12:13:17 · answer #2 · answered by Bunnylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably stop having sex with so many people so quickly. Give the relationship time to grow and give love a chance to develop. You will have the most meaningful sex with someone you truly love and care about. You can't have that with every other guy that walks down the street.
2007-02-20 11:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by Mocha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way sex is a great thing!!! My x and I have been seperated for two years and on occasion we still get down. The relationship sucks but the sex is great. Its hard to find someone who is great in bed and relationship material.
2007-02-20 11:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by bigpimpin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋