I have a FRIEND, that I've truly come to love dearly. We have had an off and on sexual relationship for 6 years. And I truly did fall for him hard. But he married someone else. We still have an off again on again encounter every now and then sexually, even though he's still married. I am exhausted mentally because I just want to leave him alone. I truly want to lose his number and never talk to him again. I respect the fact that he is married and I'm engaged myself. I truly want to live my life without him for awhile and I can't seem to break free. Can anyone give me suggestions on how to slowly break free from someone you've loved for so long.
2007-02-20 02:42:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your true love wouldn't have married someone else! Move on.....Your true love is still out there!
2007-02-20 02:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by Clark in the City 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U just need to know exactly that do u still want him or not and if u are sure about that u will do it easily ,every thing start from the mind and u will just forget about the feelings cos there is nothing that can help u to be with the guy even if you love him he chose someone else and u are also lucky cos u also have someone in your life just focus on him and forget about everything that has happened in the past.
If it happens u think about him just focus on the bad side that he has showed u when u were still together and I'm sure u will end up hating him ( from experience). And don't waste your time on him cos u will end up loosing focus on your lover ending up loosing every thing for something stupid.
2007-02-20 03:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by NUNU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't really a way to break free from a love that is strong enough to have lasted so long. That love now needs to be directed in the direction where it's just more like Friendship Love and you love him for who he is and nothing more than that and not the sexual attraction or relationship/dating love. Hope that somewhat helps..Good Luck..xD
2007-02-20 02:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by *Arunae* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really hard thing to do since you love him. But what u can try not to talk to him and try to ignore his calls. Or start trying slowly to tell him that u don't want to do this anymore, and that he has 2 understand that u want to make ur own life with someone that will actually be there for u.
2007-02-20 02:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by art 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how terribly hard this is.
I just wonder why --
If both of you loved each other, WHY... marry someone else?
WHY get engaged to someone else?
Are both of you playing with each other and yourselves such that you marry someone else because you CANNOt take the intensity of your own relationships?
Are you trying to escape from each other?
You're being unfair to the people you enagaed/married because you are placing them second on the shelf.
Is he too scared to be with you/ vice versa?
Btw the way you phrased it, you're only together for sexual gratification.
2007-02-20 02:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is one of tha hardiest things to do i dont think that love dies u just put pack it away mentally its not good for u just tell him tha best way u can without actually seein him that will make it harder 4 u you have to move on in order for your relationship to work ur engaged starting a new life wit a new love starin at tha world through my rear view which mean ur moving ahead an leaving tha past behind u better dayz.
2007-02-20 02:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by tutragic07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like those answer
well sweety
i dont respect what u r doing with this guy
but that s my opinion on that
but it will only fade away if u leave him alone
but the feelings will linger alittle
2007-02-20 02:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If love is true then it will never go away and if love is not true then you can fall in and out of what youthink is love at any time.
2007-02-20 02:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by FoxE_single _lady37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot stop yourself from loving him,but try keeping your distance and avoid him as far as you can.
2007-02-20 02:49:02 · answer #9 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you solve that one, let's do Chinese Arithmetic. It was suggested to me to stop calling and stop answering his calls.
2007-02-20 02:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by Sheila D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋