I have a terrible time getting closer to guys. There is this guy that I really like and we decided to become boyfriend/girlfriend. For a couple of weeks everything was going great, we talk on the phone, and we have a really fun time together. But, after a while things just stopped. Its not like he doesn't like me, but the problem is me. I don't understand why I always mess things up when everything is going so well. How can I get closer to him and make things better?
2007-02-20 02:38:29 · 13 answers · asked by andrea c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be comfortable and confident in yourself...
Guys like girls who can handle her business well! =)
Boost your self-confidence by getting a makeover or something that will really make you happy about yourself (i.e. playing a favourite sport with your bf, etc.) =)
EDIT: FORGET WHAT I SAID, I JUST NOTICED YOUR NEXT QUESTION POSTING: SAYING THAT YOU ARE INTO GIRLS. YES YOU ARE A BISEXUAL! =)
2007-02-20 02:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you messed up, if "things just stopped". That's a two way street. Not all your fault. Have you thought about what he did wrong, if anything? The beginning of relationships is always like a whirlwind of fun, which is great, but on average 3 months in, the whirlwind turns into reality.
You might "always mess things up" because that could be the message your always telling yourself. Self-fulfilling prophecy. If your dad is around, I agree, talk to him about this and see what he says. If this guys likes you so much, you could wait for him to come around you, instead of you trying so hard for him to stay with you.
Might be a good idea to get into counselling about this issue.
Speaking from experience.
2007-02-20 02:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by daughter_helping 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do the same thing with women, I think its part of a disorder called self defeating personality disorder. I havent been diagnosed, it could be deep seeded into my psyche it could be just fear based.
I have no idea, but honestly I know what you mean and its terrible. Its like you cant completely function in a relationship because as much as you want it, you just let it slip away.
2007-02-20 02:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu are just trying so hard. Just be yourself, because that is what your boyfriend will have to accept. Love him and care you him like you have been doing and everything will become back to normal.
2007-02-20 02:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by Brandon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its possible that that comes from your experiences in life (maybe a fear of .....getting hurt......................or.......loosing the person you care about...........................(sounds like an issue that you have to deal with if you want to have a future with this person or any other. If you have an access to a councilor or an adviser that you trust, I would talk to them, sometimes situations like this become worst and worst without dealing with them so my suggestion is that talking to a psychologist about this would be best
2007-02-20 02:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by DOC Holliday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is, because you are young, and this crap happens until you both are mature enough. He probably got bored. Either make him not bored anymore or move on.
2007-02-20 02:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz u r afraid of having ur feelings hurt
thats the problem
u need to rid those fears
and only u can do it
good luck
u r strong enough to do it
2007-02-20 02:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, talk this over with your dad, hell no what guys like, hold hands with ur bf, and hell feel closer to you, and show him that your the funniest person out there, and hell never think about another woman.
2007-02-20 02:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple get interested in his activitiies and enjoy his sucess.
You have to listen to him.
Keep your mouth shut and his fantasies are ur fantasies. In other words completely surrender to him is it possible??
2007-02-20 02:41:47 · answer #9 · answered by suma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are scared of the relationship?
2007-02-20 02:41:11 · answer #10 · answered by By Your Command 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋