We are separated and she has a boyfriend. My kids have shared that he spends the night and that they make funny noises at night. Should I go to court? My kids are 7 and 4.
2007-02-20 02:34:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Tell your wife that the kids arent going to your house unless she and her bf can keep their pants on. It's probably already traumatizing enough to have their parents separated. Imagine how hard it will be when they actually find out what your wife and her bf are actually doing.
2007-02-20 03:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right! Call your lawyer. But you have to be very careful to follow the orders of visitation until you get a new order that changes the existing arrangement. You lawyer can tell you what to do.
The fact that kids age 4 and 7 are hearing their moms "funny noises" is horrible! Kids do not need to be exposed to that, and shame on her for doing it when she has the kids. There is a time and place for everything, and she's not acting like a responsible mother.
Until she and the boyfriend are legally married he should not be spending the night when the kids are there. Period.
Best of luck to you. Now call your lawyer.
2007-02-20 02:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she has every right in the world to have a boyfriend, and for him to spend the night. If you are concerned about the noises talk to her, you never know what it could be, and if it is really even coming from them. dont start drama over nothing. and if it is them, they will be more careful if they know they are being too loud. and by the way your kids probably have no idea what those noises were,being that they are 7 and 4
2007-02-20 03:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by baileysmommy06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Withholding the children without a court order to support you will only get you in trouble. Talk to her about what the children are telling you, she may not realize. You also need to realize that your children will reflect your actions and this can be very bad for their adjustment to the separation and future divorce. Keep your differences with your wife between you and her and leave the kids out of it. Ensure that the kids know that both of you love them and would never want anything to happen to them, but that you and mommy aren't going to live together anymore. Children are amazing in their capacity to understand things that we assume they won't.
2007-02-20 02:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A custody battle can be a very hard, long and stressful thing, especially for thje kids. Talk to a lawyer, and also talk a lot with your kids. I understand about the boyfriend. Also remember that the children love their mom too, so you can not just keep them from her. If you can not come up with a mutual agreement together, please talk to someone you guys both trust or a lawyer. Hope all goes well.
2007-02-20 02:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not your wife's morality monitor. If you are separated, divorcing, and not going to get back to gether with her, it isn't up to you who or when she spends time with another. It doesn't make her a bad mother. Chances are your children heard funny noises when you were with their mother. Don't use your children as weapons in this situation. That will affect them more than seeing thier mother being affectionate in a different relationship. They are young and they will make judgements based on the things you say to them. It isn't fair to bring them into the middle of your issues with your relationship with their mother. They should not hear dispairiging remarks about her from you. Keep it between the adults. How you conduct yourself is important here.
If you use the kids as a manipulative tool to control thier mother than you are not looking at how keeping them from here will effect them. Little ones need their mother's. Don't punish them for your inability to let go.
2007-02-20 02:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by Kathleen B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long have they been together? Also, since she isn't technically divorced, you could go to court over it. If you are on okay terms with her, you might just want to mention it first that the kids hear her; that might wake her up.
2007-02-20 02:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by chelebeee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're jealous. Just call her and tell her to not make so much noise because the kids can hear her. It's that simple.
2007-02-20 02:42:13 · answer #8 · answered by Edith Piaf 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think your ex should respect the fact that you don't wont other men around your kids let alone a relationship that might not last she herself should be uncomfortable about allowing people around her children and kids do watch
2007-02-20 02:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by mssweetblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legal counseling may well be in order. These children are quite young to be learning this adult type of behavior. :-(=
2007-02-20 02:43:24 · answer #10 · answered by Jcontrols 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋