my ex boyfriend left me, im 19 and hes 29 but later i found out he lied about his age and hes 35, well we met online and finally met and ate lunch and got real close (i gave him my virginity), im not pregnant, i just want to know why did he leave me, we only dated for 10 days and then monday came and he said he was going to pick me up, but he never did and this was 3 months ago, and if he does come back to me how should i treat him, good or bad, and how long should i hold out before i give it to him again-sex?
2007-02-20 02:32:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would move on completely and forget about this guy. If he led about his age then took your virginity that's bad enough. But to pretty much stand you up and not talk to you in like months that is just way wrong. He doesn't deserve another Chance to be with you and he for sure doesn't deserve to ever be with you again sexually. You could do sooo much better and in my opinion you should find a guy who is real with you and doesn't lie or ditch you. Good luck with what ever you decide and be careful in the future!
2007-02-20 02:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mistake #1, giving a guy your virginity after only knowing him only 10 days was a HUGE mistake. You are even considering taking him back IF he calls you. It's been 3 months since you last spoke with him. All he wanted was your sex and you gave it up almost instantaneously. That is why he left you without a reason, he got what he wanted. Please learn from this mistake. The next guy you meet, think about what happened with your last realtionship. You are 19 and yjou should have a lill more sense and not give it up for at least 2-3 months. Make him wait for something that he will do anything for because if you play your cards right, a man will give you and do anything to have sex with you. Get to know him first and him you. Because right now all that idiot knows about you is, you gave it up quickly. Trust me, he is not coming back to you. Move on and hopefully you have learned a lesson from this. KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED!!!!!!!
2007-02-20 10:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by teri d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh no you did??? that why he used you for getting your virginity... and I guess he doing for points... Gosh, remember it not your fault at all... you totally into him... but lost it.. so, if he did come back to you tell him I don't want to see you.... you used me for sex and you borkent up with me after you had sex with me and you like about your age ..... when you find someone else make sure it longer than 1 year before sex.. why??? if a guy can't wait for an year they will break up with you mean wanted sex that all... If a guy waited for one year means that he has alot respect for you and tell him if we going to have sex there things we need to talk abut that... tell them the story... they will understand some not...
I am so sorry that you have used your virginity though he would be the only one... Rememember there pro and cons out there. You are not dumb or stupid for let it happen... Now you learn something new and knowing that You will not let it happen to you again....
I am 35 years old I can't image for me to lie to 19 year old and have sex after 10 days been together... wow.. and Most of all glad you not pregnant... if you see him tell him I am pregnant and he would sh*t his pants and knowing that he screw up... then if he ask you married him or what ever tell him Not true and Now you know how I feel when you play games with me.. maybe he don't care.. that how you know.
2007-02-20 11:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are letting him use you. His intent is clear from what you said - he picked up young women online, sleeps with them then leaves them. He is a liar and a cheat. Dating for 10 days does not make him your boyfriend. I say get on with your life and find someone better next time. I am sorry to say you have been duped by this man. Never ever sleep with or go near him again. He obviously does not care about you and used you for sex. Do not ever give in to him or his lies again. Learn from this, move on and be wiser in your choices in the future. If he does come back, kick that no good ^%$#@ *** and between his legs for good measure. You deserve better.
2007-02-20 10:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on kiddo, He got what he wanted. This is a dead end street and you should never have given up what you did until you knew what this man was all about. He is a user and right now he is probably trying to get in to someone Else's young pants. I am sorry you had to experience such a thing but please think more of your self and so not let this man back into your life. There are much better fish in the sea.
2007-02-20 10:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by mellow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See you have to be very careful, about meeting people on line. You need to forget about him. He used you, and that was his aim.You do not need to have any more contact with this scum, even if he contacts you again. And why would you want to! Now get your self together, and work on you, read books on self esteem, join clubs, and learn the next time you meet someone, just be friends for a while, so you can get to know a person, then you take the relationship to another level!
2007-02-20 10:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't be serious right. This guy lied to you to get a chance to screw a virgin. How obvious does it need to be? He used you. He is gone.
"if he does come back to me how should i treat him"
You should kick him in the balls and then tell everyone how he used you. I am sure he is on to his next internet virgin by now.
You have learned an important lesson here, trust no one on the internet, and don't give it away so easily.
2007-02-20 10:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by javelin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You only dated for 10 days and you gave him your virginity? Wow. Well, I hate to say it, but it looks like he got what he wanted and he is done. Let this be a life lesson and move on.
2007-02-20 10:36:32 · answer #8 · answered by Lotus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u love him, this is hard. he may left somewhere else with another woman. he prob felt ashamed that he's dating with such an age difference. love is not bound by age yet few people realize that. now if u just lust him or not. now if u feel sorry for givin gur virginity up to someone who left u, there is a ritual to get back ur virginity by God. then u could give it up to someone who really loves u. last few words of advice, follow what ur heart says.
2007-02-20 10:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by D.Money 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are fooling yourself if you think that that man has/had any feeling for you. You were just a booty call to him. He used you for sex and that is that. If he does bother coming back, then you need to show him the door. You don't need a disrespectful hot mess in your life. You need a person that will show you honest feelings and much respect.
2007-02-20 10:40:08 · answer #10 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋