I split with my ex 3 years ago,he didn't have anywhere to go when he got kicked out his place at christmas so i said he could stay with me till he got sorted.He pays no bills,has meals cooked for him,even his laundry done,but he goes about telling everyone i'm nasty to him cause i won't let him sleep in my bed and they agree with him!!Is it just me that thinks that would be f**ked up?
2007-02-20 02:28:28 · 57 answers · asked by boobookittie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No way babe - you're so in the right here and have been very kind to offer to take him in in the 1st place. He has no right what so ever to expect to sleep in your bed - you're no longer together for god sake!
And of course his friends will agree with him, they are probably just lazy gits like he is!
Time for you to take a stand and get him out of your place before he ruins it for you altogether. Good Luck!
2007-02-20 03:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by Pippa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are nasty, quite the opposite. Just because you let him into your home and cook and clean for him, doesn't mean you have to let him in to your bed. He is after all your ex. He should be thankful that you care enough about him not to see him out on the street. No wonder he's an ex. Keep him at arm's length and do not be bullied into letting him into your bed. Personally I would tell him that he has to find alternative accommodation, quick time.
2007-02-20 02:33:05 · answer #2 · answered by JillPinky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is f**ked up you let him stay with you at all. To have him sleep in your bed is beyond ridiculous.
How long are you going to let this freeloader stay with you for free?
Tell him that you were glad to help him when he was down, but that you would like to nail down a date when he will be getting his own place.
Give him a month or so to find his own place and then he should be on his own, or he will never leave.
In the meantime, by no means should you let him sleep in your bed, or even in your bedroom.
2007-02-20 02:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by b j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a nice person who is really being taken advantage of. No, you're not "nasty" and the idiots that agree with your freeloading ex are as f***ked up as he is. He sounds like a completely unappreciative jerk and you need to show him the door. He's had almost two months in a stress-free enviroment to get his life together--it's time for him to leave.
2007-02-20 02:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by Southern Cat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally if hes ur ex from 3 yrs ago and you are still kind enough to let him stay with u and let him get by free without doing anything u should threaten that u would kick his *** to the curb if he doesn't help out with anything, it sounds like u need a little more control in the situation . remember (its your house u have the rules)dont let him walk all over u , forget about who he tells he should be lucky to sleep on the couch after all the s**t u have to put up with.......that's just my opinion.....hope it works out
2007-02-20 02:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is "Why?" Why did you split up in the first place, why did you take pity on him and why do you run around looking after him?
Kick him out again and make him stand on his own two feet.
Don't sleep with him - you'll never get rid of him then!
2007-02-20 02:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all he should be bowing down to you, you seem like a good woman/friend. He is taking advantage of you and your kind heart and then he is trying to make you feel guilty, he would definitely be getting a 30 day notice!!! I can't believe him, the nerve of him, please stop doing his laundry and cooking him meals he is not your man or a baby. He seems very selfish and ungrateful. And the people who he is telling that "agrees" with him is just as Low and selfish, Take care of yourself!!
2007-02-20 02:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by Breann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's fucked up. The guy is your EX. He sounds like a freeloader. He's nothing but trouble too. You're not nasty for not letting your ex sleep in the same bed. If anything, you are smart.
2007-02-20 02:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok you did him a favour. But he is not going to find anywhere else whilst he has got it so cushy. By the sounds of it he does not even appreciate it.
My advice, get rid and for those who think you should sleep with them ask them if they are in the habit with sleeping with people they don't want too.
Good luck
2007-02-20 02:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by barneysmommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
booboo...That is messed up. He obviously isn't thankful for what you have done for him. Give him the boot. Tell him he has 'x' amount of time to get out. If he isn't out, have the locks changed and put his stuff outside. It is not worth your time and effort to support him. And this is two months after Christmas...and he still hasn't found a place to go? It is time to kick his butt to the curb.
2007-02-20 02:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by behr28 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋