I've been in and out of a relationship for the past 4 years. I broke it off with him about 6 months ago. Because he was a jerk/ He cheated. So I got a phone call from him this morning, saying that he loves me and that he has changed. My family/friends dislike him, because of the way he has treated me. But I really still love him deeply ! Please I need help!
2007-02-20 02:21:39 · 12 answers · asked by joans 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should actively TRY to get past him. That is, date others. I think you should take a little more time to yourself without this guy in your life.
I don't know if it's true: once a cheater always a cheater. But I'll always be weary of that. I would have serious trust issues with someone that cheated on me and that just spells disaster for the future.
Good luck.
2007-02-20 02:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by doggiemom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be painful, but my advice is to leave him.
I don't give this advice lightly, since I know how hard it can be to let go. I was in a bad relationship many years back, and I was too blinded by my feelings that I kept forgiving. Its very hard to see the truth about them when you don't want to believe it yourself.
Unfortunately, the more you have contact with him, the harder it will be to ultimately leave him. If he really is that much of a jerk, as you say, your best bet is to get out of that relationship as soon as possible. Don't be in a rush to get back to a relationship, just take some time out to get over him first.
I hate giving you bad news, but the only person who can help you here is yourself. Just find the strength.
2007-02-20 02:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by neo_genesis10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes cheated once he'll cheat again. I went through a similar situation. I was on and off with a guy for 5 years. he cheated and i gave him another chance. My family warned me but i didnt listen. I finally left once he got some other girl pregnant. You can only imagine how hurt i was. Take my advice and let him go. It will only hurt more the next time. I know it isnt easy.... i wish u well.
2007-02-20 02:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissilicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the loser. I'm sorry it doesn't matter how much love him, you will get deeply hurt if you get back into this relationship with him. so do you and your family/friends all a favor and lose the loser!! He had NO Right to treat you like that and he should know it. he is obviously just using you to get to someone else or to satisfy his own selfish desires. I know, love is blind, I experience that everyday. But you have to understand this guy is not good for you.
2007-02-20 02:26:31 · answer #4 · answered by horsesareforever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's see....you've broken up with him before, he's a jerk, he's cheated on you, your friends and family don't like him, you think that you still love him deeply in spite of all that...they all sound like good reasons to rush right back to him.
2007-02-20 02:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ur love life will have many obstacles. its how u get through them that makes the journey. if ur heart really loves him, then u should. guys can be jerks sometimes, but u gotta remeber the good times u had together and keep strong. confront him in a civilized manner and discuss ur issues. u shouldnt resist ur hearts desires becuz of a minor dispute.
2007-02-20 02:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by D.Money 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you believe he's changed? Is it possible he's just telling you that to get back together with you? People usually don't change. Sure, they make temporary adjustments, but if he was a jerk, when he gets comfortable with you again, he'll become a jerk again.
2007-02-20 02:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to say once a cheater and user always a cheater and user. He has lied to you once what is to say that when he said he has changed he wasn't lying to you again. Users do this they tell you what you want to hear and then when they are bored with you they become jerks. Ditch him and move on so you can find someone who truly cares for you.
2007-02-20 02:30:59 · answer #8 · answered by robbie501 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a decision you have to make on your own. Do you believe he's changed? Do you trust him?
My personal story - my ex-husband cheated on me while we were engaged. I packed all my stuff and told him that I would not share him and it was her or me. He told me that was all it took for him to picture his life w/o me and he chose me. We weren't even married a year before he cheated on me again!
2007-02-20 02:30:02 · answer #9 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first of all guys like that NEVER change. If you take him back, what makes you think he won't do it again? Tell him to piss off.
2007-02-20 02:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋