My lawyer is filing papers to stop this. This will include ski trips or anything where they can get the impression that this activity is OK. People are saying that what they do with him is up to him even though apparently the courts don't think so. I am tempted to remove custody from him all together.
We are not divorced or even legally separated.
By the way, I am dating someone. This is not about whether he sticks it in a woman, man or horse. I don't want my kids in that environment.
2007-02-20 02:08:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No. He doesn't spend the night. My husband won't listen. He has NPD.
2007-02-20 02:16:51 · update #1
All the immoral people come here. Interesting. No, my boyfriend doesn't spend the night. If they get married, that is one thing. He has 14 days a month to have her spend the night, when I have the kids, Again, his NPD has taken over.
2007-02-20 02:21:45 · update #2
Lawyer called to say the court signed the injunction this morning. Guess the courts can say, huh?
2007-02-20 02:22:44 · update #3
could JEALOUSY be a big part of this?? move on and act like an adult. kids will know the difference sooner or later and there's no sense in you making it later thus hindering their knowledge. let them decide if they want to accept the idea or not of their dad's g/f spending the night. who gives a rat's a s s what the court said-you could be making that up as far as we know so try that stupid saying on someone else.
Mom of B & D
2007-02-20 04:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of B & D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"We are not divorced or even legally separated.
By the way, I am dating someone" And you say you don't WANT your children in that kind of environment...What sort of morals/values are YOU teaching your children if YOU are still married to their father and dating someone? BTW you have no power to "remove" custody from the father, only the court has that power and given the fact that YOU are dating while still married I doubt you'd have a "leg to stand on". In fact the kids COULD wind up in foster care until you and your husband resolve your "issues" petty as they probably are.
2007-02-21 02:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have NO right to judge morals, you are married, not legally divorced, and have a boyfriend. I feel for your kids. But hey, your only out for yourself so you will just laugh at the MORAL ones on here that KNOW what you and your husband are doing is WRONG, even if you are getting a divorce.
Maybe your kids will get lucky and get a judge that will appoint them a guardian at large, to make sure you and your husband are kept in line.
2007-02-20 10:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have some issues. If she is good to the kids why not? You are both getting on with your lives and new partners are a part of that. As long as it is not a new woman every other week then you need to get over it. If you can have a BF then he should be able to have a GF. You need to get over it. I cannot believe the courts would waste their time on this unless she was abusive.
2007-02-20 10:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, your kids are his kids, too. And you're dating, too, for crying out loud!!! I'll bet you bring your lover home and maybe you don't care if your kids mind or not. I say you are just getting back at him for leaving you. I don't think you've got a right to do this. And the court has not issued a ruling on this, it is something your lawyer is saying, maybe just to justify his fee. I think it's time for you to let go. I'm sorry, but this is life.
2007-02-20 10:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by gaban24 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you do but on the other hand does your b/f stay the night with you when your kids are at home? If he does then it is a double standard. If he doesn't then you have everyright to be upset about this. It is too much for the kids to try to handle, especially since you aren't even divorced yet. Have you even talked to him about this or are you just going straight to the attorney? I might be a whole lot easier if you could just talk to him about this and tell him your concerns and feelings.
2007-02-20 10:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know it's hard but since you are no longer together when the children our with your husband he is the one who makes the choices that he feels best, If he was constantly bringing different women around them it would be more scary but right now you really need to put your anger aside that you feel for him and see that your children need their father in their life, sorry to say but if you attempt to keep the children away from him you will be doing more damage to the kids. Yes your angry he maybe had an affair or whatever but now as hard as it is you need to be as positive about their relationship with their dad as you can .otherwise your children will grow up resenting you or him.I would tell you to just keep teaching them right from wrong kids are not dumb.
2007-02-22 23:58:00 · answer #7 · answered by LuvnLife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been in your situation and hope to never be but here is my opinion.
Depending on how new the situation you are right the kids should not be around when the boyfriend(whatever it is) is staying the night. They need time to adjust to the whole situation themselves and need to understand what is going on. Him going out with them like say to the movies or whatnot as daddy's "friend" is probably not a bad idea though.
If the kids are too young to understand at this point then it needs to wait until they can understand.
2007-02-20 10:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by mom2ace 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
So you wouldn't let the person you're seeing spend the night with you when you have you're kids?
This is rediculous! I'm sorry but it sounds like you just don't want your husband to be able to move on and be happy without you.
2007-02-20 10:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
if she's a nice person, what's wrong with it. did you really except your ex not to move on with his life? you have someone new in your life. what if they get married? what are you going to do then? if she's not hurting the children I see nothing wrong with it.
2007-02-20 10:19:56 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋