2007-02-20 02:05:33 · 14 answers · asked by ghajari 1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you were there at the end always remember the good times you had together and remember she is watching you wanting you to be happy and she wants you to make her proud.
2007-02-24 00:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be any conselation but at least you saw her before she died how much worse would it have felt if you hadn't. Life is short we are all only here for a limited time some more than others, at least your mother had someone who cared, remember how many people don't have that they die alone, unknown and uin wanted. Be happy in the knowledge that her torment is over and she is at peace at last and understand your mom wouldn't want you to beat yourself up over her, be proud in her memory make your life into something worthwhile, Good Luck and peace to you I hope your moment will soon be over Take Care
2007-02-20 10:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by decrepid1958 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your mother is in a better place now. That is hard to believe I know. I saw my mother also take her last breath. Then I knew she was not suffering anymore. I realized then that she was not only my mother but she was my BEST FRIEND also. I have so many good memories and that's really what she wanted to leave me with. Your mother wants you to be happy and go on with your life. You owe her that much. You must grieve for awhile and then you WILL realize all that I have said is TRUE. Your mother is and always will be alive INSIDE YOU. God Bless You.
2007-02-24 00:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by andyt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry you had to go through this.
First of all, you have to believe that there is nothing you could have done to change that. Don't blame yourself over it; there is nothing you could have done. It was her time and this is inevitable not optional.
At least, you were the last person next to her in her last moments and you should see that as a good thing for her and for you too despite how sad it is. She would not have wanted any other person to be next to her at this moment but you.
Try to keep yourself busy and try to spend time with family and friends more.
I hope this helps and I wish you will get over this soon.
2007-02-20 11:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by M. Shaaban 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its a really hard thing to see someone you love go. But it is simply God's will to take them when they do go. You had a gift when you were present to watch her take her last breath. Only time will help. My Dad passed over two years ago, I was holding his hand when he died and i thank God i was there. It will take time, but we must press on. God bless you!
2007-02-23 22:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by cool_jj334 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry- I just lost my father in law too and felt comfort in this poem-
Miss Me But Let Me Go-------------------------
When I come to the end of the road and the sun has set for me
I want no rites in a gloom filled room,why cry for a soul set free?
Miss me a little but,not for too long and not with your head bowed low remember the love that we once shared,miss me but, let me go
For this is a journey that we all must take and each must go alone. Its all part of the Masters plan, a step on the road to home.
When you are lonely and sick of heart go to friends we know and bury your sorrows in doing good deeds, Miss me but let me go.
2007-02-20 11:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am so sorry you had to go through this i can only wish for you to take care and find a happy place in your life again.we on a answers sight cannot help you with this my love.it takes time and experience from skilled councilers.please seek one out i am a mother and i know if my children were hurting that would be my wish.your mum would want you to aswell hun.take care be strong and try to remember your mum as she was not the last moments you spent with her
2007-02-20 10:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by nendlin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You might like this poem:
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.
2007-02-20 10:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by daz7521 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my god!!! I am so very very sorry about your loss. I don't think you will ever get over it but with the help of counselling the pain will ease alot quicker than if you try to deal with the grief by yourself. I wish you all the very best.
2007-02-23 06:41:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm very sorry to hear about your sad time, take a look at this link for help and support.
http://www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/
2007-02-20 10:14:17 · answer #10 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋