I have been off and on with a b/f of almost 2 years now. We were very serious, we lived together for 1 year and 2 months. I moved out in october because off all the violent off and on fighting. We still fight on and off and break up- make up. Its crazy. During all this comotion. I have met someone new. Him and I aren't serious but the feeling that i have lost for my b/f because of all the fighting, this new guy seemed to gain. Should i continue on with the old knwing what it turns into...or try something new with the new guy?
2007-02-20 02:01:26 · 13 answers · asked by Sweetest sin <3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a decision that only you can make. But, let me ask you this - how do you feel when this fighting is going on? You say it gets violent. Is this kind of relationship something you can still see yourself happy in a few years down the road?? My suggestion would be to take some time for yourself and evaulate your feelings for these two guys. Jumping into one relationship right after another (rebounding) hardly ever works out. If it's meant to be with this guy, he'll give you a month or two to figure things out.
Good luck.
2007-02-20 02:07:55 · answer #1 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a very unhealthy relationship.You wouldn't want to stay if there was no pay off for you.I think you need to step back and learn how a healthy relationship relay works.Take some time to read and study.You deserved to be loved,and respected for the woman and the person you are.Be careful it is a dangerous world.
2007-02-20 10:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by Chester J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.) absolutely get out of the violence and fighting. It's no good for anyone. Especially if there's no feelings, it's totally not worth it.
2.) Go ahead and try something new, but be careful not to rebound--it never seems to work out that way.
2007-02-20 10:11:42 · answer #3 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit your boyfriend down and tell him, that this relationship is not working, and may be it never will, that you think it would be best that you both go your separate ways. Tell him it is just not a healthy relationship. Now you new friend, just be friends, so you can get to know him, and learn his ways, and see if the two of you are compatible, and that is how you can find out if he is the real one for you!
2007-02-20 10:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even consider going back to a guy that you fight with all the time?
Do you like it?
2007-02-20 10:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You first ask a question to your self... what makes u happy??... what makes u feel special??... Just remember ... u may love to live with the one who fights but loves...You may not love to live with the one who is peaceful but cold in emotions towards you. hope ur decision will lead u to a pleasant life!
2007-02-20 10:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by eagle eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fighting can be a part of a healthy relationship as long as it doesn't get physical. if it is physical fighting then leave him alone and put your effert into the new man. if they hit you before they'll hit you again
2007-02-20 10:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by cavebyrd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
staying in a violent relationship is unhealthy. by staying you are telling him that it's ok for him to be violent with you. it's time to move on
2007-02-20 10:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by sassy2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely try something new. give the new guy a chance.
i'm sure you don't want to be arguing for the rest of your life.
2007-02-20 10:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by just wondering.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mentioned violence. let me break it to you. Violence in relationships is disgusting and unhealthy. sounds like you 2 are better off without each other. period
2007-02-20 10:06:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋