My boyfriend and I are both 19. He's been living on his own since he was 18. We've talked about marriage and we do at some point in time want to get married. I know we're both too young to get married now, but do you think that 20-21 is too young to be engaged? He's matured a lot because he's been on his own and I just know we're going to be together forever anyways. I've just seen so many marriages fail and I don't want that to ever happen to us. So what do you think is a good age to be engaged and getting married?
2007-02-20 01:55:53 · 19 answers · asked by imperfectsimplicity 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Check out the statistics on marriage ages. It's a been a while, but last I checked the divorce rate for males that marry before the age of 25 is over 75%!
Yes, I'm sure you two may be more mature than that, but I think it's worth thinking about. I think you should wait a few years to at least get more financially stable, etc.
Good luck!
2007-02-20 02:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by doggiemom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize that you both may be exceptions to the rule, and both may be more mature than the average couple, but honestly, I think that waiting until your late 20s (even 30!) is best.
It gives you the opportunity to go and do what you want on your own terms - be young and have experiences. Travel. Go out. Be young. Have FUN!
Having those experiences will help you both focus on what's most important to you - your relationship and your marriage - which is a recipe for SUCCESS!
Besides, if you know you're going to be together forever, then there's no harm in waiting, saving money for a fantastic honeymoon or a substantial down payment on a house!!
Best of luck to you both!!
2007-02-20 10:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I knew then what I know now....
I say wait until late 20's. There's a maturing process that occurs during your twenties and at 28, you're a completely different person than you are at 21. I was a very mature young teen, teen and young adult so when I was 21 I thought I was ready. But I've grown a lot in the past 10 years. I'm just now discovering who I am. And now I think I should have waited to get married...
2007-02-20 10:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you can set an actual age regarding when people should get married because it's an individual thing. You may be ready at your age, where some people are not ready until they are in their 30s or 40s. If you are financially stable and truly committed to each other than there's no reason to not get married. If you want to go to school, travel, or get started in your career work on that first though. Now is your chance to do whatever you want in life so take advantage of it.
2007-02-20 12:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by Colie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marry: age 22 or 23 ... or engaged: age 18 and on ... well im 18 an engaged but then again u dont wanna rush marriage because it is a commitment ur making for the rest of ur life .. divorce is not a good way out either
2007-02-20 10:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't listen to what people think is too young to be married. If you truly love each other and you feel that you are ready to take on a commitment such as marriage, then you should do just that. I do recommend that you be sure this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with and vise versa for him, but if you both know that you want this and you are ready to take the vows to love one another, don't feel that you HAVE to wait, because ultimately it is the two of you who decided when the time is right .
2007-02-20 11:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age isn't the important criteria here. Maturity and ability to accept responsibility are. Marriages fail not simply because someone is too young, but because someone didn't care enough about, or respect the other person, and that can happen at any age.
2007-02-20 10:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by Winger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think 20-21 age is good. You know you are going to be together forever. Just make sure you start saving now, so when you do get married, it's not so overwhelming.
2007-02-23 18:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by Laela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say its still young to be married,but its not wrong. many other reasons why some marry a little later is cause of a chance to finish our studies, develop our career instead of starting a family so soon....u need to ask urself, even if u are both matured, are u ready to take up extra responsibilty? because its not an easy task. even the strongest find it hard to manage at times.
2007-02-20 10:02:12 · answer #9 · answered by kristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not think 20/21 is not too young to get engaged but too young to get married. the older you are when you get married the better because you are more mature and have had more experience with life.
2007-02-20 11:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋