The guy I've been seeing is really focused on getting his business off the ground & said that he doesn't want to committ to a relationship until he gets himself in order. Which is understandable. We talk a lot & he's really opening up to me, which I know he was afraid to do before. He told me that he cares a great deal about me but is scared to make that leap into falling in love just yet, but he doesn't want me to go. We spend all of our time together. He practically lives with me & I understand his pressures at work & with his family, but don't want my waiting for him to be in vain. What should I do? I want to stay because I care a great deal for him as well & my feeling are strong but I'm afraid that when he is ready that he won't choose me.
2007-02-20 01:51:48 · 7 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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If you care about him, support him - emotionally and physically.
Getting a business started deals with alot of strain on time and focus. That's a tremendous responsibility.
There's no way to know for sure what will happen in the future, but if he thinks you're adding pressure for a commitment, he'll start straying away (distancing himself).
My advice would be to talk to him and let him know how you feel, but have NO expectations and you should verbalize this....even though, you might.
Too much pressure, again, will lead him astray.
He'll appreciate you for the support once things are defined with the business.
Good luck........
2007-02-20 02:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by HottNikkels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hummmmmm, the ol I'm to busy To committ angle.
My take is no matter how busy you are, Love can find a way to work. so keep that in mind. watch his behaviours. I'm not feeling he is into you as you may-be into him. I would begin and plan of seperation and realize this may not be your guy. Reason: why wouldn't he want to have you on board as his soulmate through thick and thin? good and bad, rough and tough, etc. Get rid of him, he is going to dump you soon.
sorry, for the gut check!
2007-02-20 10:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by WAWAYNE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the both of you really need to talk about what you are feeling. keep this in mind if you care for him and you enjoy the time you spend together nothing has been done in vain, enjoy what you have in the here and now, who knows what tomorrow will bring
2007-02-20 10:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by jboogie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there by his side when things get rough like per say a best friend would do, but still keep him interested enough so when he gets off the ground and going he can get together with you, as bf&gf.
2007-02-20 09:56:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say just wait and if he cares great about you then he'll tell you when he is ready and that he'll chose you in the end. Just stop worrying!
2007-02-20 09:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by kala15200 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel... if he's realy a good man, he'll understand how you feel, as much as you understand how he feels.. A good communication won't hurt, maybe it might lead to better results.. Just don't expect too much from him... He's still a guy, and guy thinks differently..
2007-02-20 09:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by carol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for you two to sit down and talk about what, if any, future you two have.
2007-02-20 09:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋