...but I may have money for the simple gold ring which will become the wedding band--any suggestions about cost for the wedding band?
it is horrible of me to do give her the (presumably) diamond engagment ring after marriage?
i am a grad student and am -and will be quite poor--unti i finish my studies.
2007-02-20 01:51:42 · 28 answers · asked by Janus 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i have a friend who didn't want a gemmed band. she just wanted a simple silver band for her engagement ring, and she got it!! her wedding band is her husband's grandmother's engagement ring i believe. a diamond is NOT required of ana angagment ring. i don't have (or want) a diamond. my ring has a celtic knot pattern adn a garnet stone. it cost about 350$ only because it's 18 kt white gold and we special ordered it. if you wanted to, try to get her a ring with a different gemstone, like emerlad, sapphire, ruby, etc. what's her favorite stone? what's the birthstone for the month you started dating? try something like that..
and a plain gold band would be fine!! maybe after you get married (and after school) you could get her one of those 3 stone rings, for past present and future...i think that would be appropriate. it's not horrible to give her a more expensive ring after the wedding at all. and btw, a plain band will cost about 100$
or you can get her a poesy ring. these rings were exchanged by couples at either their betrothal (engagement) or the wedding. they're very cute and some have very romantic saying on them. i got my fiance one for our anniversary this year that says, in galeic, I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine. there are others...even some that have shakespeare quotes on them. try this site for ideas: http://www.signals.com/signals/Jewelry_1FA/Rings_1FI.html
http://www.sapphirelane.com/POSEY%20RINGS.htm this one is really great and has them in a whole bunch of laguages!!
2007-02-20 03:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by Duelen 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Here my opinion of the engagement ring. Marriage for me is forever, so why pay 1000's of dollars on a ring that can be replace 5, 10, 20 years later. My ring cost $1500 (sadly saw the receipt when we got it sized.) Love my ring and would not trade it in for another. Well maybe in a few years for an anniversary present. =P Going with a unpopular shape of the diamond will make it cheaper. I believe a pear shaped is the best bet. As for sizing, if you go through a jewelry they should do it for free. Good Luck!
2016-03-29 04:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get a diamond engagement righ very inexpensively from Ebay. People sell them when they break an engagement, get a divorce, or get a ring with a larger diamond. We got an engagement ring for our son to give his girlfriend which has a one-quarter diamond in it. It is beautiful. We paid $125.00.
We were quite poor when we got married. We got gold bands. After we had been married for a while, and we seemed to have enough money for everything else, grad school, cars, houses, etc., I became quite bitter that I had never gotten an engagement ring. I got one with a one-half carat diamond when we had been married twenty-four and a half years. Take my advice. Don't let it go that long.
2007-02-20 02:16:33 · answer #3 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You could always go with a gemstone engagement ring and then upgrade to the diamond when it is affordable. I agree with the above that the band should be saved for the wedding itself, however there is absolutely nothing that say the engagement ring HAS to have a diamond as opposed to her favorite gemstone.
Just a thought.
2007-02-20 02:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by Alabama-Wedding.com 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not horrible! If she loves you and understands your situation, she wil understand the finances. Definately, don't break the bank on what you can't afford....
My husband found my ring in a pawshop. It is antique and absolutely gorgeous. And he didn't pay the outrageous jewelry story price..I don't think that the ring cost more than $200. Of course, I didn't pick it out, he surprised me with it. But it was to my taste, as he asked before.
Also, you can bargain with jewelry stores. There are 3 stores in the mall in our town. And all three had the same ring. My mother-in-law walked into the first and asked the price: $700. In the second store, she asked if they could do better $500. In the third store, she asked if they could do better $450. She walked back into the first store and asked if they could do better: $400. By using her feet and asking the question, she got the price down $300.
Good luck. You don't have to spend a small fortune to have a beautiful wedding and you don't have to be rich to have a beautiful life.
2007-02-20 03:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not horrible to not have a diamond ring. One of the happiest couples I know got married in 3 weeks after meeting and only bought a wedding band. However, they are one of the poorest couples I know, and my fiance is currently loaning them $200 because they don't have food money.
Getting married is saying to the world, it's the two of us. We support each other. We are adults, and we can do it on our own. I wouldn't be worried about the ring (and if she is, she's not the right girl for you), but more about the marriage. You will need a place to live, you will need to eat, pay utilities, her bills become your bills. Don't worry about the money for the ring, worry about the money for the marriage. People will expect you to stand on your own once you are married. If you are confident that you can support a marriage, then I say propose away and congratulations!
2007-02-20 02:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa H 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, I hope she understands your predicament and won't get too caught up in the whole "diamond" thing. That said, is there a woman in your family that would give you a ring? That is, my husband didn't have much money either, but I am extrememly close to his family. He gave me one of his grandmother's rings as an engagement ring. Nope -- no diamond. And maybe someday I'll get one. But the sentiment is so beautiful and made me feel really special and part of the family. Can you get something from your mom or grandmother(s)?
Bear in mind that if something happens and you don't get married she is obligated to give the ring back -- it's not a gift, it's a part of a contract to get married. Hopefully that's a moot point.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-20 01:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by doggiemom 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
There are rings that can be purchased rather inexpensively, that are called "Promise" rings. You can purchase them at Wal* Mart for under $100. (I'm sure you can find these rings elsewhere as well) Then, when you have the money to buy her an engagement ring, you can replace the Promise ring with the real thing. I have seen these rings & they are really pretty & not cheap looking. It's the thought that counts. The wedding band is to be saved for your wedding day.
P.S. I disagree with Chuck....for now you are low on cash but those days will be behind you before you know it.
2007-02-20 02:02:17 · answer #8 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
www.diamondnexuslabs.com
Try that. But no, I've heard of a lot of people in your situation, lots of love but not a lot of money. If you can only afford a gold band, I would wait and get it for the wedding. I wouldn't give it to her as the engagement ring. The band symbolizes the completion of the union - wearing it before just seems - wrong. But it's your wedding/engagement you can do whatever you want.
2007-02-20 02:14:08 · answer #9 · answered by Brandy 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If the money situation is what is posing a problem, then maybe now isn't the right time to propose. The worst thing to have is debt when you're a student. The best thing to do would be to wait until you've started working and can put money away for the ring. I'm sure your girlfriend will understans and will respect you for making a responsible decision.
2007-02-20 04:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋