Alright. I'm big on that you can meet your true love online. I have myspace and have been talking to some guys. I talk to them on the phone too. There are three guys im really into and they want me to choose. Like i mean, they want me to be with them too. I dont know who I want to be with. I like them all. They are all completely,tottally different from each other. I flirt with every1,bcuz im single and i dont think anything is wrong with that(or am i wrong? n i shouldnt b doin that?) I wanna be honest and say ' i like this guy. but i like you too the same'. i always try and look at it from their eyes too. and i feel bad but, its my life ya kno. i gota live it my way. I feel if i say yes to one.then all the other guys wont want me if i dont choose them. Can you help me on what to do? I'm sorry theres kinda many questions. and im just going in circles. Answer the best you can, if you have a question then just email me.
2007-02-20 01:47:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. Do you want a serious relationship with one guy at the moment, or to flirt with several? If the latter, then the men will have to put up with it or leave.
2. Imagine that you chose a particular one of them. How would you feel about being with him and wthout the others? Do this separately for each guy.
3. If you like them all equally but want to choose one, use objective measures such as money, convenience etc.
4. Meet the parents etc before you decide.
5. They are all aware that they are in "competition". They are all aware that you don't know which one to choose, but they want you to choose. Propose to them that they draw lots and whoever wins gets to date you exclusively. If it works out then you are happily coupled with your true love. If it doesn't the remaining two draw lots. If he doesn't work out then you are left with the third one. Then none can take it as a personal rejection. If they can't handle such an arrangement, it's unlikely they would cope well with the ups and downs of a long-term relationship with you.
6. No flirting with anyone else if you are in a relationship with one of them.
7. There are probably lots of people who could be your true love, but you only need to find one, and when you find him you don't need to find any of the others.
2007-02-20 02:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by lawomicron 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you date a man, it's not as if you're closing all your options to the entire world and that you'll be stuck with him for the rest of your life. It's your decision of whether you wish to be with this man forever, and things change as time passes. Life;s about making decisions and mistakes, at your age, dating is not a problem, it's just moving on to the next stage marriage which is. There's nothing wrong in you dating these three men, but if you want to proceed on to marriage, you'll have to choose from them. There's no responsibility on your part at this point of stage in your life, but you'll have to make your decision later.
2007-02-20 02:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by Soaring 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you afraid of the others not wanting you if you don't choose them? Can't you still be friends with them? Looks like they are not interested in friendship only. If you're into them only as friends and flirting occasionally, then tell them so and that you're not getting serious with any of them right now. But if you're into them with the intent of getting serious, then pick one you like best and feel you have the most connection with. Then tell the others. If you choose to not contact you anymore, so be it.
2007-02-20 01:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely at the beginning, do no longer enable this guy administration your existence. What i advise is, do no longer enable him distract you. in case you like him you're able to tell him climate or no longer he has a gurl already. And if he likes you tell him he greater valuable choose for between you and the different gurl. If he chooses her then skrew him. Now if he thinks you loopy for askin in the 1st place, do no longer sweat it. There are over 10 million adult men in this united states of america.
2016-11-24 20:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by bleau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't really like anyone of them very much but are enjoying the attention, which is fine. If they want more then it sounds like it's time to move on and meet some new friends online. BTW- it's good to actually meet people offline too!
2007-02-20 01:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn.
Just give up and date women for a while.
2007-02-20 02:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick one.
2007-02-20 01:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy problems...don't we all have those.
2007-02-20 01:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋