The groom doesn't give them attention everyday or doesn't call everyday. They are jealous of our relationship and the realtionship with my family. Which I see once every month or so. The in-laws live four doors down. Mother and sister in-law have some depression/ lonely issues with life and keep nagging on the groom. The father in-law was on the grooms side but now switched over to the mother and sisters side. They are mad we are getting married away also and they cancelled going with us. They said that we should of had it here and paid for it our self and if we couldn't afford it then we could of had a wedding and not a reception. We are marrying all-inclusive and the wedding, reception, and honeymoon is all in one for us. It was more affordable. Help! My in-laws are so needy, naggy, and said since they are not going to the wedding they would understand if we never talked to them again, but that is our choice what we do. The mother in law did this with every past girlfriend
2007-02-20 01:42:31 · 10 answers · asked by june 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It sounds like they need to grow up!!! I could understand if they cancelled because they couldn't afford it but to cancel because they are mad about were you're going to get married is childish. It is your day and you can have the wedding where ever you please. They will regret not going and missing out on their son getting married and it will be no ones fault but theirs. If they decided that they couldn't come for financial reasons you could always set up a celebration with them when you get back so they feel included but it sounds like they need to pick their battles, if they let a little thing like this get in the way of attending the wedding, believe me, they will feel stupid and regret it. I would tell them that you are hurt that they wouldn't want to be there on the biggest night of your life but it won't stop you from talking to them and it doen't stop them from becoming your family too. I would just be the bigger person.
2007-02-20 02:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by Vogue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they can't afford to go on a trip like that with you. I say go have the wedding and have it video taped so they can see the wedding. They may be feeling left out and the groom needs to address this with them. I know if i had gone away to get married my mil would not have been able to afford such a trip. Have the groom talk to them about it because it sounds like you don't feel accepted by his family and he needs to stand up for you. I would never cut off contact because some day you may want them to be involved grandparents to your children.
2007-02-20 02:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by bubbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only tell you what I would do. I would write them a nice letter that says something like, "We are sorry that you are having a difficult time accepting our marriage, but we have made a commitment to each other and will be doing it in front of our family and friends. We would love it if you could be there, but understand that it is difficult for you. We love you and will miss your presence." Then I would go ahead with the plan, remembering that their issues are not mine.
2007-02-20 02:05:28 · answer #3 · answered by Kathleen B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy if I've heard this once I've heard it a thousand times! What I never hear it that the groom is doing anything at all.
I know that you want everything to be perfect but you have to remember that this is his family. If he can't help then no one can.
Try to involve him in anything that happens and try to take his advice. Chances are it won't be good advice at first but eventually he'll see that he has to act more responsibly.
2007-02-20 01:56:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ernie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let them get to you its their loss. If she ruined all his past relationships it tells me that she can't give up her little boy and stand to see him with a women other than her. he needs to sit her down (both of you actually) and talk to her, write things down so you dont forget something and point out what she is doing
2007-02-20 02:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by scarlett13854 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't do anything about your in-laws not going to your wedding; hopefully you haven't stooped down to their level and have been kind .... whether they go or don't go, is all their choice.......feel sorry for you, in-law troubles before they are even your in-laws is a big red flag......
2007-02-20 01:47:08 · answer #6 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are needy don't let them ruin your day, if they don't want a free vacation they don't have to go.
2007-02-20 02:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their loss. They will just have to get over it. Don't let petty spiteful people spoil your big day.
2007-02-20 01:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done all that you can do and it's sad that they won't be there but that's their choice.
The two most important people will be there....you and him. Don't let them spoil your special day.
2007-02-20 01:59:30 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it aint gonna stop when you get married. think about what you're getting youself into, but if you're sure don't let them bother you. they have the right to wreck their own lives
2007-02-20 03:26:45 · answer #10 · answered by shiara_blade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋