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At this point in my life i fear my future i feel like i will turn out to be a failure now i am only 16 i just want to wake up 10 years older i want a small glispes of my future but i cant. I am at the gym losing weight i feel alone in this world. I have no self esteem i look at those woman who have perfect bodies for me i feel pure jelously towards them and even my brothers girlfriend my parents i try to talk to them but they dont understand my friends i keep my feelings to myself my borther is not in the equation anymore i try to spend time but he is always busy with his girlfriend is there anyway i can boost myserlf esteem and make myself feel better

2007-02-20 01:42:09 · 6 answers · asked by Lizzy 3 in Health Mental Health

i am in counsleing

2007-02-20 01:52:10 · update #1

sometimes i fear i may never accept myself for who i am

2007-02-20 01:55:55 · update #2

6 answers

Elizabeth (beautiful name).

Sometimes the life is heavy and the pain feels in the self esteem. In these moments one voice inside you cries: "Make another things, grow up yourself", and this is like an evolution. The body is just a packing and the gyms are a showcases for it! Why you don't walk? Take a relax moments and think in others things. Between you and your self esteem exists your spirit and It's strong, I know.

With esteem.

Traven

2007-02-20 01:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by Traven 4 · 1 0

It's a rough age, 16. I think that the most important thing to remember is that it's only a phase, a glimpse in time. Someday you will be 10 years older and look back and chuckle at yourself. When I was 16 the world seem so small and everything was very drastic and dramatic. I was the center of my own universe. I was also a little chubby and very depressed. Then I lost weight, I found something I loved to do (write and play music), and just tried to hold on. I also started a journal, which I still keep- 14 books and 17 years later.

Anyway..if you're unhappy with your body, do what you can to fix it, but more importantly develop your mind. Read some great books. I know I got more interesting guys knowing about Kafka than I did by wearing a size 4 dress.

Develop your interests and enjoy your life, and in turn let your brother do the same. I know you feel abandoned by him right now, but try and put yourself in his shoes. If you had a boyfriend and things to do, you might not want to include him in everything.

Learn to do something unique...take guitar lessons, write poetry, paint. It will do wonders for your self-esteem.

2007-02-20 09:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by the beet 4 · 0 0

10 years from now you will have graduated from college. While in college you studied abroad in Spain and met your current boyfriend, who came back to the states to marry you. You will have worked for a few years, made a little money and then decided to go back to graduate school. You will still have some of the same friends from high school, but you will have made new friendships that are even deeper. All along the way you will have had no idea what was waiting around the corner, but you will be actually pretty happy with how things turned out. And you will think back on how you could have never guessed how great it will have all turned out.

2007-02-20 09:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 1 0

The only person that can make you feel better is you.
You have to come to terms with the limitations of self (everyone can't be everything to everyone - I kind of mutated Abe Lincoln there), and realize what makes you special. You don't have to be a model to experience acceptance and love. You do have to be comfortable in your own skin though. That's going to be the toughest thing... be who your are, and proud of who you are without living life on other people's terms (I assure you that they have been just as confused as you at some point in their life about the people they are). Once you come to terms with yourself you can focus on things which you may want to change, not for the sake of acceptance - but rather, because you believe you'll be a healthier happier person for the change. You have to control your emotions to a certain extent before you can control your life.

2007-02-20 09:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by voxninerbox 2 · 1 0

Sure, start eating blueberries, exercise every other day and think positive.
perfect bodies come with time, not overnight.
just start your own routine in your room at night with music on
do your routine every other day...try 100 side stretches, 50-100
situps and get a small set of weights to do hammer curls and ankle lifts...that should cover the whole body.
remember to relax neck when bending pickin up stuff.
take vitamins or get some B12

2007-02-20 09:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0 0

Talk to a counselor at school. I think you need some professional help. Believe me, unless you do something to change your attitude, your life isn't going to be any better in 10 years. Good for you, going to the gym, though. That's a great step in the right direction.

2007-02-20 09:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by leaptad 6 · 0 1

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