i've been with him for 1 yr. v r cool and stuff but off late he's been annoying to have sex. im scared he'll dump me if i refuse. he is relli cute and has sacrificed alot for me. what is ur advice? should or shouldn't i?
being in his shoes, would you u be dying for it after all the trouble u've gone through?
2007-02-20 01:23:57 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dint understand what is the problem to have a sex with some whom you love and other way around to,sex is not one sided game but it is for the both parties to enjoy it, if you are mature enough and understands the meaning of making love then you should go for it, but don't forget to use condom,
2007-02-20 04:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya sure I would be dying to have it with the girl I have sacrificed so much for, but only on the condition that she is willing to have to it as well. If not I would wait till the girl is ready for it.
Whatever u do, do it wisely and choose your priorities. U should only do it if u are wanting it as well. U should not do it if u don't want to. Make him understand that u r not ready for it and that u will tell him when ur ready for it.
Good luck and have a good time together.
2007-02-20 09:30:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i'm not a guy, but i do kno that if ur not ready for sex then i don't care how much he pressures u , u don't have sex with him, relationships are about give and take but this is something that is truely big in ur life an done of the most meaningful points in ur life as well.and if hes gonna dump u over sex thens hes not worth it, u need to find a guy that will be willing to wait as long as u need , sounds like this guy only wants u for sex, and think about it if ur asking this question and stalling this long , then i think u already kno ur not ready to have sex so don't, not until ur 100% sure
2007-02-20 09:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by clutzmuch276 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's going to dump you if you don't give him sex, then that's all he wants from you. He doesn't want anything else, and you are nothing else to him but a lay. I was with my ex for 2 1/2 years and we never did it, and he never pressured me. Just because someone's cute and has "given up a lot for you," doesn't mean that you should ever feel like you have to have sex to keep him around. Another cute guy that actually respects you will come around one day, and he's the one that's worth the wait.
2007-02-20 09:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you both are (and I don't want you to tell) but speaking honestly I can say that I would probably be keen to take that further step after being together for a year. Yes, we boys have a one-track mind.
However, if you're not ready, don't do it - simple as that.
Remember that as long as you've made it crystal clear in his mind that no means no, there are still lots of "fun" things you can get up to without actually taking the big step ;-)
2007-02-20 09:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by bonshui 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, don't do it unless you are ready. Don't think that just because he is cute that their is no one else out there who looks better, can treat you better, and WILL respect your wishes not to engage in sexual intercourse, seems like he is kind of giving you an ultimatum, and if you don't he'll find someone who will if he has not already!! Watch him carefully for cues that he might end up dumping you, if so hey at least you have an idea of why is was with you in the first place.
2007-02-20 09:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should! He may ditch you if you don't. A year is a long time to be dating someone without any sex, he must really love you to stick in the relationship that long without any sex. This means he is a keeper, he didn't start dating you just to get in your pants. If you love him, care about him, and have been dating him, why not take the next step to closer intamcy and have sex with him?
2007-02-20 09:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have sex with him when you ready and you shouldn't do it only because he want to .. i understand that he gave up a lot for you but if he loves you then he should wait ..
Don't over do it of course .. the question is what keeps you for having sex with him??
Don't you love him ?
You have to explain to him how you feel ..
But a year is quite a lot of time..
Depending of course your age /religion etc (the factors that are preventing you from having sex with him)
Good luck :-)
2007-02-20 09:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what feels best for YOU, no matter how much pressure he's putting you under. You can only lose your virginity once and believe me, doing it just to please a boyfriend can come back to haunt you later, when you might meet someone who makes you actually want to do it as much as he does. If your boyfriend cares about you, he'll wait until you're ready. If he doesn't, then he doesn't deserve to be your first lover does he?
2007-02-20 09:30:54 · answer #9 · answered by gill s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF he dumped you because you won't have sex, then he doesn't respect you. Why would you sell your respect for something so cheap as the fact that he is "cute"?
It sounds to me like you shouldn't be having sex AT ALL!
2007-02-20 09:31:39 · answer #10 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋