He broke up with her, and she still calls him and sees him. She won't leave him alone. He isn't helping the situation either. He still answers her calls and sees her too. They fight constantly and they have both have cheated numerous times since they got together. My husband and I can't stand to be around both of them at the same time. I don't understand why he still sees her and communicates with her if they don't get along. I don't think it healthy. He has also started lashing out at people after they do fight. Please help!
2007-02-20 01:19:05 · 23 answers · asked by Puglovinlady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He needs to yield to your pleas and stop this non sense and stop seeing her. There is no love there. Life is about love. If he doesn't soon begin to find it, locate it, grasp it, make love a part of his life, he will be a very miserable man. He probably can change his number, have caller ID. It is a drama. I think there is less drama than at a gay bar. If it hasn't worked so many times, it probably never will. Once you violate the bedroom, all respect in each other is lost. You need to be strong too. You need to tell him, hey we have stood by you but don't treat us like crap. -Hope this helps congratulations to you on your wonderful sacred marriage and hope all is well.
2007-02-20 01:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by punxsyparty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and lovingly set some boundries. Remind him why you are friends. (I'm sure it has nothing to do with the psycho girlfriend). Tell him all the reasons you are friends - and how the friendship is important to you.
Then - point out his behavior lately. Actually - from what you describe - they BOTH sound pretty unpleasant. But.... tell him that you cannot and will not condone his continued contact with her when you're around. Tell him you've truly decided that she is nothing but bad news, and to encourage him to have a relationship with her in anyway would be harmful - to everyone. Tell him that you are asking him to not have contact with her when you are around. If, however, he needs talk about how to get past it all - and move on - you're more than happy to be a listening friend.
Hope that works.
2007-02-20 01:28:17 · answer #2 · answered by liddabet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok like most ****** up couples, they hate each other but can not be with out. the thing is they both have their sercert little lifes on the side but still want someone to be their, like a fall back in case life aint so pertty, so best thing is dont be around them or say it how it is, where they together they make everyone crazy and you dont want that ****. theyn have to deal with their own ****** up realtionship, its not good to play captain save a hoe either. i had the same problem but im a complete ***** and dont care if someone gets piss, so i let it know dat i dont wanna play their game, and well you get caught up in the moment when they both fighting, and then da gurl thinks she can talk some ****, then you have to beat a *****'s ***. so just leave them alone!!!!!!
2007-02-20 01:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by dianebarton86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Restring order. If he truly wants out, but you need to just talk to him and tell him how this is affecting you, your family and this friendship. If he thinks he may lose a good friendship over a ding bat he may wake up. Good luck. He can change his phone # for free if he's getting threatening calls, he can screen his calls, tear up her letters, and refuse to open the door, (call the police) if she wont leave. She'll get the message after a night or two in jail. But he has to do something if he "TRULY" wants this to be over, if not leave him alone and move on. It's his life don't let him pull you and your family into it.
2007-02-20 01:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by whateverhohum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him one last talking to, and tell him how you are very concerned for him, because he is not helping his situation with his exgirlfriiend, and he should think more of himself, and ask him why is he allowing her to keep so much drama, going between them, say if you wanted to, you could stop all of this. Tell him this is not a healthy situation, and it could get serious, and that you just hope he could just leave her alone, and then you could find someone, who would respect you. And you tell him, you are tired of this drama, and that you do not want to be around all of this mess any more!
2007-02-20 01:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there’s not much you can do if he’s not willing to let her go. If he’s still seeing her and talking to her then he obviously isn’t really bothered by her nor is he over her. You need to put some distance and space between you and this friend until he and his ex can work out whatever it is they’re trying to do. You should be honest and let him know that you’re going to continue being his friend however you’re not wanting to deal with his up and down relationship with his ex.
2007-02-20 01:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems psycho girls always rock the house behind closed doors if u get what I mean.So that's probably the only draw.So find him someone that is nice to the rest of society.
2007-02-20 01:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by freak33881819 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you think you had given them all the advise they both needed then its time for you to just let them realize that its better for them not to have any means of communications...
2007-02-20 01:24:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrange situations for you to meet them in public places and bring up their past. They'll probably feel more srutinized and maybe they'll see the value of finally parting.
2007-02-20 01:23:49 · answer #9 · answered by lochumbuk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distance yourself from this "friend" and his ex until things work themselves out. You don't need to find yourself in the middle of a raging war between the exes.
2007-02-20 01:22:10 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋