She txt me yesterday with pictures of the 6 month little boy with blue eyes and says he is mine. And that she wanted me to see my son because she is putting him up for adoption. Well he has blue eyes and neither of us dont. Infact i am mixed blk-hisp and she is white (if that matters). But since she wont let me see him(moved to another city) and i cant do a paternity test if i find out what his blood type is and it matches mine that means he is really mine right? And if it doesnt match that means he isnt right?? I need help cause i need to know before i loose him forever.
2007-02-20 01:18:14 · 18 answers · asked by BOB 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
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Thanks 4the idea of the DNA test but U have 2realize i do not know where she is. As i said before i got a text message out of the blue. And when i tried to call back it was disconnected (after about 5 minutes). The message was that she wanted me to see my son before she gives him up for adoption. So if i dont know where she is there is no way for me to do the DNA test. We txtd back and forth for about 5 minutes with me asking questions. The child does not have my last name and i am not on the birth certificate. When i got tired of txting i got the "this is disconnected" message. I figure i can try to find her on myspace and before she totally dissappears ask the blood test question. I only have one shot to find out if he really is mine or why after 9 months of carrying and 6 months of life she chooses to tell me this now. Does any1 have that 1 questions that i can ask to once and for all be sure. "is he mine?" but i wouldnt have gotten the txt if he wasnt.
2007-02-20 01:33:33 · update #1
get a DNA test, BTW all babies are born with blue eyes
2007-02-20 01:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, blood types, while usually based on the blood of the parents, don't really signal very much of anything. If you both have a common blood type... that's not going to tell you very much. Depending on where you two live you can probably go to the adoption agency she's planning to use to inform them that she told you you're the father and you'd like to stop the adoption. Some places will ignore you, since you don't make it sound like your name is on the birth certificate, but some places will require the baby get tested and stop the proceedings until the tests are back. If they come back and he's yours, they can't legally adopt him out without your permission.
Check the laws in wherever you live. There's always the police. I bet, with the right spin and the right evidence (the pictures she texted you) you could make a good case for kidnapping. Not that I'm saying you should screw her over but hey, if it's your kid, what she's doing is wrong.
2007-02-20 01:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a paternity test. If he is your child, she can not put him up for adoption without your consent.
As for his blue eyes, that is a recessive trait, and both parents must carry it for it to show up in a child. Because of your heritage, it is extremely unlikely that you do. Stranger things have happened, though. I wouldn't rely solely on that to decide that he's not your son.
In answer to your question about blood type, it can not prove paternity, but it can disprove it. If you know your blood type, and the mother's blood type, then you can look up which options can come from that combination. If the child has one of those, he may (or may not) be yours. If he doesn't, he can't be yours. If you're depending on the mother to tell you his blood type, or anything else, I would be very hesitant to trust her. She doesn't sound like a very honest person. Sending pictures out of the blue of a child who is already six months old and looks like he probably cannot be yours, and then telling you that you can't see him and she's giving him up...She sounds like a drama queen who is just trying to get some attention from you.
Please get a DNA test to sort out this mess. Good luck to you.
2007-02-20 01:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by RB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, the blood type will tell you nothing. In order to know for sure he is yours you have to have a DNA test done. However, if your name is on the birth certificate as the father you can contest the adoption until you are able to have a paternity test done.
I would recommend calling a lawyer who specializes in family law. Most of them will offer a free consultation & you can figure out what your options are before the adoption is complete. But do it quick because pulling the baby out of a home AFTER the adoption would not be fair to anyone.
2007-02-20 01:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by melonamc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should not be able to give your child up for adoption without you signing away your legal rights. Blood group means nothing as he will be a mix of two parents blood types which can result in a different blood type from both of you. ie you o+ her A- can = o-. the only way to prove it is through DNA test. Have you got a rough idea of what state she is in? Call an adoption agency and get some advice. They may be able to check if she is with them. A PI may be able to help. Colour of eyes is also nothing to go on as it can be a genetic throw back to a previous generation
2007-02-20 03:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One, blood type means nothing, we all have blood types that match others, blood type is not the same as DNA... Two, the color of the eyes doesn't really mean anything either, my brother and his EX both had brown eyes and they had a child with blue eyes, there was questions with his paternity and the test was taken and it was a perfect match, so two brown eyed people can create a blue eyed baby, I would suggest contacting the courts or child and family services and notify them of the circumstances.. And maybe file for a paternity test ASAP so you know for sure if the child is yours of not.
2007-02-20 01:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by B-E-B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no longer conceivable so a recommendations as I remember. i'd get a DNA testing performed ASAP. per chance she isn't your daughter. There would were a blend up. She ought to tournament both one or the different or be an element of both. i'm A- and my husband is 0+. both are females are A and 0 yet they reversed the positve and negatives. A+ and 0-. there is notwithstanding a recessive gene in actually everyone and the area below will clarify in the journey that your youngster's bloodtype remains area of yours. Her blood became checked at start so locate her start files and observe if the bloodtype she is now matches the start files also.
2016-12-04 10:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by fuents 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally she cannot put the child up for adoption without your consent.
Contact the dept of children and family services in the city where she lives, they will be able to direct as to what your rights are.
If you want to know for sure the child is yours, the only way is a DNA test. In most states, they cost about $500-$800.
If you want to know for sure, or even better, take custody of your child, it is a very small price to pay.
Oh, as for the blue eyes, it can very well be a recessive gene on her side of the family.
My husband is Filipino and I am German/English, our daughter has green eyes (we both have brown as do our parents).
2007-02-20 01:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by Crazymom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its better to do a DNA test than a blood test, as the results are much more accurate. You will most likely have to get a court order to have the paternity test done and if he is yours, you will have to give consent for him to be adopted. I would contact a lawyer ASAP
2007-02-20 01:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you can have a different blood type than your child. She can't put him up for adoption without your consent if you are the father, and your name is on the birth certificate. Both parents have to agree to give up their parental rights before the baby can be adopted.
2007-02-20 01:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by AzOasis8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is impossible to say he is yours because the blood type matches and if they don't match it doesn't mean he isn't yours. The only thing you can do is go to the courthouse in the county she lives in, file a petition with the family court to have a paternity test done.
2007-02-20 01:24:59 · answer #11 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋