I have dated other man after the heart break, but I still feel the pain at times.
2007-02-20 01:07:56 · 17 answers · asked by Kache 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it takes time, we will feel the pain sometimes years later even if we are in a good relationship. day by day we get better, but we will always remember it, but it shouldn't stop us from being able to move on with someone new. love shouldn't be painful if it is it really isn't love. takes awhile to get past heartache, past the life we once had, and what we thought it was, takes accepting the truth, based on that persons actions. the pain does come back to us years later, but we just have to realize that we had no control over what happened, as it was another persons choices that caused our heartache.
2007-02-20 01:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you recover?....you get up every morning. You have breakfast, wash your face and hands, brush your teeth. Go to work. Just keep going, day after day, even when it hurts so bad you ache inside. One day it hurts a bit less. Then it starts hurting less and less. Until one day, you wake up, and the hurt is gone, the empty is gone. And you can start your life over again. Hon, I know there is a whole lot of pain right now. You will get past it. And it will be better. Look at it this way: it is better you did not stay with this guy. There are real reasons why you two are not together any more. And ...you know something hon? You are so much better than this pain and hurt. Be strong, be brave. You will get through this.
2007-02-20 02:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by the witch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had the answer to that, I'd be a much happier person. It's been over a year since my breakup. I did the breaking up and it still hurts like my life's coming to an end.
The only thing that's kept me from going back to them is the knowledge that nothing would have changed.
Still, it is getting better. Not much better and it's brutally slow, but it is getting better.
The worst part, for me, is I run into both of them at the dojo. Both my ex-bf and ex-gf attend the same one I attend, so there is no avoiding them. I've practiced there for 11 years and am now considering leaving just because being around them hurts so bad. I'm glad they are still together, but every time I'm around them I'm depressed for about a day following.
2007-02-20 01:19:22 · answer #3 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, we've all been down that road. The way I dealt with it was too just stay away from relationships of any sort, they just do your head in if your not ready... just give it time, do the things you enjoy and do those things you have always wanted to do, and when u stop feeling the pain, well you will just know, then go from there. Better off in a new relationship with a whole heart.
2007-02-20 01:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first u need to go out and have some fun and not think about him. The more u think about him the more hurt u will have and the longer it will take u to get over him. I have learned that sometimes u just have to pick the pieces up glue them back together and move on. It worked for me. It might take a while but it will be worth it. Go out with ur girlfriends and have a girls night out no men just yall and u will see that u really don't need him or miss him as bad as u think u do. Good luck.
2007-02-20 01:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by biggest_duke_fan_ever@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to get back on the horse so to speak, but having saying you have done that - it just takes time. Some people find comfort in meeting other like minded people like at the singles group i have. Some people find comfort in going out and seeing new places, the general moral to the story is that you need to find what works for you - it may take a while but you will.
2007-02-20 01:59:20 · answer #6 · answered by Karl B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you have someone to talk to, it helps, you will find that there are a lot of people out there that are going through the same thing, and sympathy works wonders. Treat each day as a new day and slowly the pain will be come a distant memory.
2007-02-20 01:30:22 · answer #7 · answered by Maria B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on urself, pamper urself, make time for urself, book urself in for a massage etc. Spend time with ur friends. Do stuff that takes ur mind off ur ex and soon u'll stop thinking about him so much. Cliched as it is but time really does take the pain away. Soon u won't think about him as much as u do now. If u feel good in urself and with urself then it reflects in ur mood and wht u think about. take up a new hobby and plan to go on holiday or soemthing with ur friends.
2007-02-20 01:28:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Occasionly I still feel grief over the loss of it all.....many years history, two children.
But I can't be too worse for the ware these days as I am happy and live life full of my interests and my children's and always practice self care. As I keep myself emotionally balanced, I have more to give to my children........and my heart continues to heal.
2007-02-20 02:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by Janet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time heals a broken heart.
2007-02-20 01:13:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋