What are some intimate things we can do instead of sex. I am just worried about getting pregnant. Im 14, and I cannot support a kid
2007-02-20 00:56:36 · 16 answers · asked by caligurrl3634 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is almost 17, and i am almost 15
2007-02-20 01:44:58 · update #1
good for you!!! what a mature decision... tell him how you feel, and respond to him firmly and lovingly... if he can't understand, that's sad but... not your problem... stay strong... and dont let him use the 'but we'll use protection' card.. if you dont feel ready, dont do it... I have a neice and nephew that were both conceived with condom use... as far as intimate alternatives... talking is one of the most intimate activities out there...
2007-02-20 01:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing romantic about SEX. When you are not married and give yourself over to a sexual relationship, you loss a part of yourself each time you do it. What you are doing with your boyfriend at 14 is meant to be shared between a husband and wife. When you are active like that but you're married, the possibility of an unplanned pregancy is much easier to deal with then if you are 14.If your boyfriend cares about you and if you care about you, neither one of you will cripple your future. Raising a child at 30 is no piece of cake with a husband, please don't try it at 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, I think you get the point. So tell your boyfriend the best way to prevent an unplanned baby is not to have sex, and if he does not want to hear that, then girl you and your future are more important then the head that he is thinking with. Oh yes it is hard, very hard to be intimate and not end up having sex.The least little hug, kiss, rub, usually ends up becoming more.
2007-02-20 01:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by Naomi J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are 14 this bf of yours need to go hell, you are a child and when you get pregnant is will move on to the next girl. you are not going to see him. just tell him you don't want to have sex any more. you should not do any or have any sexual favor with this guy. you are a child, if you are not pregnant already you need to stop seeing this guy. concentrate on school, get in some school activities, find some things to keep you busy. you don't need a bf. a bf will never validate who you are, but he will give you a child and that will validate you've been had. you don't need a bf, you should not be having sex at 14. when you are older and meet your soul-mate, you are going to wish you had saved yourself for that special person. just say no if he cares he will understand, this way you will see how he really feel about you. is it the sex he is getting from you or dose he care about you.
2007-02-20 01:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by BLUE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you care about him, but you've become uncomfortable with having sex at your age for a lot of personal reasons.
Clarify for him that you really mean it...that it's not something you want him to woo you or talk you out of. That you need his support...not his pressure.
Explain that, if he needs the sex to survive (he doesn't, but it may be hard to convince him of that), that you understand that he may have to go elsewhere.
This is a good move on your part. Life is long and complicated enough already without throwing away your childhood on a baby that you're not ready to raise, or living with the consequences of certain STDs throughout the rest of your life.
2007-02-20 01:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by Chuck B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well to start your to youing to be having sex and if you haven't been using protection you might get pregnant. But you can kiss and have oral with him and him with you without having real sex. But you should think about how your going to tell him and how's he going to take it. But you and him need to realize that having sex comes with alot of reponsiblilites and you and him are too young still to be having a kid at this age. SO if you have to give each other oral.
2007-02-20 01:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
WHAT ARE YOU DOING HAVE SEX AT 14! ARE YOU NUTS! GIVE HIM A CONDOM!
Why don't you explore french kissing instead or groping each other or at least oral sex won't get you pregnant. I think 14 is way too young to be having sex.
2007-02-20 01:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is REALLY important you assert yourself here. you MUST tell him, even if it means the relationship ends. cos what would you rather - you guys break up, or your entire life plans are changed cos you have a baby.
i completely relate.
do your best, explain how you feel, if he doesn't completely respect you, dump him. (and do not listen to the "don't worry, you're not gonna get pregnant" line. cos you could, it is possible)
remember, its your body and you have THE RIGHT to say what happens to it.
you go girl
2007-02-20 01:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by Elle W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not be having sex at 14 but its very good that you relize this, if he really likes you then he will respect it and there are lots of other intimate things that you can do, try looking up websites
2007-02-20 01:00:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you're not willing to deal with the consequences of sex, and that you want to stop. If he loves you, he'll respect you. If he's just in it for sex, then he'll get all mad and hissy, and then he needs to be let go.
2007-02-20 00:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you have decided not to get stupid.Ask him if he is ready to support a family.If he doesnt like it,,too bad.That just means that he was only after sex anyhow.Send him steppin'.
2007-02-20 01:00:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋