Hey i have a problem and i really dunno what to do
you see my boyfriends in college now and he lives in a house full of people his age,all of them are guys except for the one girl. My boyfriends 18 and she's 22. Shes extremely friendly with all the guys but more so my boyfriend. She sits on his lap or next to him on the couch,she like talks suggestively to him puts ice down his shirt,they go jogging together and everything. now i know my boyfriend loves me alot and he tells me not to worry she's just a 'friendly' girl. but i cant help but get jealous. we live an hour away from one another and we've been together for a year now... please help me and give me your opinion on the situation,do you think he'd ever cheat on me etc.
thanx
2007-02-20 00:51:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe i should just play fire with fire.... get me a 'friendly' guy then he wont have a say in it
2007-02-20 00:53:49 · update #1
He is having sex with her. I am 100% sure...but you know, in a guy's mind that is not cheating. If he is telling you that he loves you, maybe he does, but because you are far far far far away (1 hour???) he thinks is ok if he has a little fun with his friendly girlfriend. It is up to YOU to decide what to do. I would get me a new boyfriend!
2007-02-20 01:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by eli_davila2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know for sure whether your boyfriend would cheat on you. This is definitely a complex situation and I can feel your frustration. Obviously this girl is looking for some attention and the younger guy seems to be more exciting for her. My suggestion is show her you're his woman. Stop by his college for surprise visits. Bring him/mail him his favorite whatevers. Send him sexy emails/voicemails. Kiss him seductively (when you see him) and leave him wanting more so all he can think about is you. Give him reasons to talk about you all the time. Eventually the girl will get tired of this once she sees she can't "break though". Oh, and most importantly stay confident. Don't let this girl know you are a little worried. Let her see that you know your man won't cheat on you, cause you're the only one he wants. Confidence is the key. If she knows she's winning, she won't stop.
Good luck!
2007-02-20 01:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right that could be an answer. Your in a situation that would bother any body. Before I'd go to that extreme I'd have a talk with the girl. What ever you do be sure and do it in private, and do it in a way that she will not get offensive, and it back fire on you. Your idea as well as mine could back fire if not done correctly. So if your out to just get this girl from getting to friendly with your boy friend.Don't attack her or she could, if she's not allready go after him. See we humans are funny well go after something just because, and than akter we prove our point we don't want what ever it was so we put it away, or get rid of it. Good Luck.
2007-02-20 01:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by russell c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she's really friendly and that's all it's cool but a house full of guys and one girl and you think they aren't doing nothing. Well you need to take the blindfold off and realize if she's sitting on his lap and getting all lovey dovey there's a reason she does that and it's not to be friends. SO hey get you a male friend and hang on around him sit on his lap and let him kiss you and let him feel you up and tell you bf he's just been friendly and see what happens. I would fight fire with fire or just kick him to the curb and move on. Because if he really loved you he wouldn't let a woman sit on his lap or play lovey dovey games with him. But it's up to you
2007-02-20 00:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. do not do "fire with fire"
then you are as bad as him.
if you have said something to him about it, he should have stoped it, if he didn't, he doesn]'t really care that much. sure, it's allright for him to have a female friend, but when he has a girlfriend, he should not be letting other women do like that to him. chances are, thta he is already cheating on you. as far as i am concerned, if i had a gf that was sitting on aguy's lap, it would b eover, so if a guy let the girl sit on his lap, then my opinion would be that you should end it, and find someone that will treat you like you deserve to be treated, and be a truely loyal and loving boyfriend, that you can actually have a secure future with.
\best of luck.
2007-02-20 00:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by my_name_is_what 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off guys are kind of stupid so they think that the "friendly" girl is just that, hes kind of blind to see she is actually flirting with him. I think you should play fire with fire but be REALLY careful you dont want to wreck your relationship. There is also "the talk" tell him how it makes you jealous and hurts your feelings that he is always around her *someone who flirts ALOT* I hate to say it but if you dont do or say something soon he could cheat on you bc hey he is a guy after all.. i doubt it will be on purpose it would be one of those OOPS times but we dont like those either lol
Best of luck to you!
2007-02-20 00:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by angelkisses7951 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the way i see it you can trust him or not trust him. has he given you a reason to doubt him in the past? it sounds like they really are just friends, i wouldn't worry about it. i have had female friends like that before. getting your own "friendly guy" might make a point but also might serve to just piss him off. if he loves you a lot like you say then i would just trust him. maybe tell him to stop letting her sit on his lap or tell him some things that bother you that they do.
2007-02-20 00:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by LawDude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since I don't know anything about your boyfriend, I'm not sure if he'd ever cheat on you - however, I must say that it sounds like he's enjoying the attention he gets from her, and that's not a good sign.
2007-02-20 01:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No man should allow another woman to be all over him, playing or not. If its in front of you, then your guy is a real, well you know. Chances are if he lets that much happen, given the opportunity he may let more happen. Stop it and if he gets mad, then you know his plans were more than he told you.
good luck, I hope I am wrong
2007-02-20 00:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by wingedladyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!! well the girl might be his friend for now but just keep an eye out cause he might develop feelings for her. But don't nag your boy friend alot about it cause you will sure'll loose him. Getting another guy as a friend might work try it what do you have to lose??
2007-02-20 01:00:26 · answer #10 · answered by clxgolf2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋