no matter where you work, there is always gossip and back-stabbing. a thing that bothers me a lot is when "A" is not around, B, C, & D really talk awful about her. When A is there, but C is not there, then A, B, and D all rip C apart, and so on. They act like they are best friends with whoever is there and assisinate the one or two who are not there. I always stay out of it, never participate in it, but it is hard not to hear it. What is the best way to handle office gossip and "rip aparts"? Is ignoring them and going about my business the best policy? I feel sure they also talk about me when I am not in earshot, but I don't dwell on it that much. If I knew what they were saying was fact-based and the truth, it would not bother me as much as knowing they are exaggerating and even making up stuff or assuming things.
2007-02-20 00:50:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The best thing to do is to turn and walk the other way when you hear gossip. Who wants to be associated with people who gossip and back stab is beyond me. I will never understand why others do this because all it does is tear down others. If anything at work, we should be building each other's morale and confidence.
2007-02-20 01:04:06 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this seems to be the culture of most offices. I stay as far away from it as I can get. The last job I had even the boss did that. She told me all sorts of things about everyone else in the office. It made me very uncomfortable because it made me wonder if she was saying things about me to the other employees. (I now know that she was and still does & I've been gone for a year.)
When someone starts gossipping around me I excuses myself & just say I gotta get back to work or something like that. If they are in my office when they do it, I tell them the same thing. They always get the hint.
I have made some very nice friendships here because of that. The people I eat lunch with or go out for drinks with do not gossip and they know that I don't gossip about them.
Good luck.
2007-02-20 01:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by Jane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Er... that's not just office gossip, but school, college, society gossip.Happens everywhere. Best to ignore it. It's aggravating, I know, when people talk the meanest things behind someone's back and when they are present, they're suddenly best friends. If you wander into it, then when the person involved finds out, the table is turned and the main gossipers point their fingers at you...lol.
2007-02-20 01:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by beachblue99 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Avoid the gossip. Do not involve in anything other than office duty. Be nice to everyone, even to your enemies who made the gossip
2007-02-20 01:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by mono_blade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I GUARANTEE this would get them to stop.
Create new e-mail accounts with each gossipers name on yahoo or something and send e-mails to each one's work e-mail address all day with random messages about the gossip that they are spreading. You could include articles about gossip in the workplace, that may straighten them out a bit!
If not, it will drive them crazy having e-mails coming in to themselves about their gossiping and paranoia is sure to set in about which Gossiper is doing it!
What do you think? Give it a try!
2007-02-20 05:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by Reserved 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. Come to work, do your job and go home. Mind your own business and avoid people who get into petty office business.
2007-02-20 01:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aaaah....better known sometimes as the ' viper pit ".......continue ignoring it....as long as you're not participating in the gossip.....they will have nothing bad to say about you....
2007-02-20 04:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by Blondie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it!
2007-02-20 01:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by iscan12345 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha, that's girls for ya!
2007-02-20 00:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋