I havent even been going out with this guy for a month yet and i allready have feelings for other people. I am his first girlfriend so i don`t know how to break up with him without bursting his heart. He was the most romantick guy in the world on valentines day but now he is just .........him. I really want to go out with other people. Pleaz help me i don`t know what to do!!
2007-02-20 00:47:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You staying with him just because you don’t want to hurt him isn’t a good reason to stay. If you think about it, you’re hurting him and he doesn’t even know it. You’re feeling pity for him and nothing else. When you talk to him and let him know that you want to be nothing more than a friend to him, don’t mention the feelings you have for other people. What you need to do is think of how you would want him to tell him if the shoe was on the other foot. If he was dumping you how would you want him to tell you, what words would you want to hear? If you’re his first girlfriend no matter what you say, he’s going to be hurt. Just reassure him that he’s not the problem. Let him know that you’d like to remain friends with him but nothing more. Wish him the best in finding someone that will love him and want to be with him. Tell him that right now you have his best interest at heart and because of how you feel you don’t want him hurt in the end so you want to end the relationship as his girlfriend and just be his friend. Be honest with him as far as how you don’t want to be with him just leave out the wanting to date other people. Even once you end the relationship wait a couple of weeks before dating someone else because if you don’t you’ll really send him over the edge. My last piece of advise to you is this, before you dump your guy be sure that your grass is greener on the other side. Just because there’s someone else out there that has caught your eye, doesn’t mean they want to be with you and will treat you better than the one that you have now. You may end up by yourself or in a bad relationship and the guy you have now may have moved on or may not take you back once you’ve had your chance to roam. Always hope for the best but be prepared for the worse.
2007-02-20 01:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 19:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To thine own self be true... If you have lost feelings for him, be honest with yourself...and him by telling him sooner than later. Youve heard of the old saying...."i love you more with each passing day"... He may be falling for you more each day, and with you feeling the way you do.... not telling him right away can only cause more problems... Inside, you will start to resent him the more time you spend with him, even though you are the one that is being dishonest.... I Know this beause I lived it about a month ago Good luck... Remember, when you end it, there is nothing wrong with making a dark situation bright... EMPHASIZE THE FACT THAT YOU FOUND HIM TO BE THE ONE OF THE MOST ROMANTIC GUYS AROUND, and how you will never......ever forget valentines day...."prop it up by saying... what he did for you on V day will be the standard in which all future V-dayswill be judged." There is nothing wrong with getting a headstart on healing his ego after you break
it off. GOOD LUCK
2007-02-20 01:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by The Curious One 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to break up with him. the longer you put it off, the more it will hurt him. you have to do it quik. don't drag out a relationship that you know is doomed from the beginning. just be easy and gentle about how you do it. let him down easy. don't be mean about it.
yeah, no matter how you do it, his feelings are probly going to get hurt, but it is better for a little early, than a lot later.
2007-02-20 00:55:51 · answer #4 · answered by my_name_is_what 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old is this guy? You are going to have to tell him straight up exactly how it is. Say that your not ready to commit to one person. Would that be a total lie? Have fun and play. You don't need to be tied down to somebody who your not into. And, staying with him because you are afraid to hurt him, will make the blow worse when he does find out.
2007-02-20 00:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want to go out with other people you should. You can't just be with him because you feel sorry for him or because you pity him. He's going to have many other breakups so don't feel bad. Just break up with him easily.
2007-02-20 00:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by PB&J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that u are sorry but that u don't think things are working out. That its not him its u. that u don't know what u want and that right now u think that u 2 should see other people. But don't be mean about it. ok good luck
2007-02-20 00:55:28 · answer #7 · answered by biggest_duke_fan_ever@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple... If you are already thinking about other people, get out. It can only get worse from here. Get out before you invest more time into the relationship. You'll be saving yourself and him from a lot more heartache.
2007-02-20 00:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by just wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him down as easy as you can its better for him in the long run, and believe me if you two have only been dating for a month he will be just fine don't worry.
2007-02-20 00:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him your not ready to settle down yet and that its not anything hes done and its best that you go your own ways or you will just end up cheating on him and hurting him.
2007-02-20 00:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋