How to go about this?

Question

Hi,its a girl whom I know from past 7 years.She was my childhood friend's friend and suddenly she wrote to me that she would like to make me her friend.Till last to last year we were communicating through letter. after that we are in the same town and we sometimes used to see ourselves.She is well aware that I had an afair of about 8 years that broke off and I was very depressed for that,she was also having such experience,so we both come to share our feelings.Friendship became more than a seeing friends and we started sharing many topics,no boundation of things related to sex and intimacy.Some days back,we started talking over the phone very frequently and last month we saw a movie together.We were close but we did nothing physical.Last week I went to see her and there we came closer,kissed each other hugged each other and she also allowed me to have a fair look on her breasts.Now we want to get in regular touch.She is in favour of love marriage.Oftenly she says if she would be marrying a guy from her choice that would be one of her friends n I know that guy by name.I also feel jealous when she talks about him. She is well aware I cant marry within 2-3 years but she
is being pressurized by her parents for the marriage. Is taking this relationship as presently
not going to affect anyof us two? Is she honest to me and am I honest to her? Is everything right?

Answer 1

Anything strong enough to touch the heart will scar it. Now like any scar your stuck with it for the rest of your life. Now with that in mind how do you want to deal with this. Is she the one? Can she be your partner or is it better for you two to acknowledge the fact that your bond by compasion and love creating a relationship that doesn't need such boundries to function. Remeber you can't just move-on and forget someone, life isn't that easy, shoot try lol. So with that said remeber that on the road to finding your partner your going to have alot of lovers (lovers doesn't mean simply people you've tried to make your wife and failed). Time to feel it out and sense which one she is and do what you can accordingly. No one can give you the right choose even if I knew you guys personally, time to test that gut feeling and learn from your successes or failures. Just try to make the choose that keeps in mind that you can't cut this person completly from your life even if she turns out to be a venditive, maniplitive, and untrustworthy person. You'll always feel for her so be careful because that feeling is ether going to always make you angry or it can be a feeling that gives you happiness no matter how close she is standing to you.